You start sitting in his lap in front of the girls and start kissing..... }:)

I wouldn't go and sit with him at all at these events.

I also would not sit around all day with a back to me being ignored while Princess and Daddy have their little 'bonding' fest. Get up and go do something you'd enjoy. Whether that be something at home or something outside and around town. Just go. I wonder how long it will take Dh to notice you're gone and then how much longer until it clicks as to why.

No, don't run over and sit on his lap. This isn't a competition and you will not lower yourself to compete with a teenage girl. Not a contest as to who gets to 'own' the guy's lap or all his attention.

And when he finally ask what the h*ll is up with you, you flat out tell him you are sick and tired of watching him look like a child molester. Yes, to him and his little Princess it's all innocent and nothing sexual, but all those people at the events? They see an old man with a young chick on his lap. And at home? How f-ing rude to ignore the other people in the room and sit there playing Daddy and baby girl like star struck lovers.

No, you're not jealous. Yes, you know it's all pretty innocent and nothing sexual but it's f-ing inappropriate. Does he really think when Princess brings home her first boyfriend that Boyfriend will think this is all cute and 'oh, looky, Daddy just loooooves his baby girl soooooo much'? Heck no, the boyfriend will think Dad is a perverted old fart who can't keep his hands , eh, lap off his daughter.

Don't play games. don't beat around the bush, don't sugarcoat it. Tell the foolish old goat exactly how it is.

That is disturbing, the worst part is the exclusion aspect. Mind you a 17 yr old sitting on daddys lap ranks right up there. Is your DH that self centered to not realize that their cozy time and body language (back towards you) is somehow ok when you are sitting right there?
That must be hard to stomach. I would chose to never be around them, no football games, and when they are over make yourself scarce. Maybe come right out and say "SD we have chairs to sit on"

Your husband is so convinced this is appropriate behavior even in public that I don't know how you would get him to understand without you looking like the jealous crazy stepmama to think like that.

But, the people who saw this at the game it probably thought it was creepy and weird.

I can't believe he thinks this is something to brad about.

It will probably take one of his friends or a stranger to berate him and tell him it’s disgusting before he stops. He will still probably do it in private, he doesn’t see anything wrong with it.

It’s not just a step thing, it happens in all families.

I remember seeing an Oprah makeover show once. An older man had a horrible comb over. Oprah asked the wife how she could possibly let him out of the house looking like he did. She said she’d tried to tell him but he thought he looked great.

Well, Oprah and the audience told him the come over was terrible and he let them do a make over. He looked much better but he still said he thought he looked better with the comb over.

Husband gave SD a trip with him to Italy when she graduated from high school. The next time I saw her at a family gathering, she said to everyone that some Italians asked if they were husband and wife, "Ewwwww!" she screeched, clearly delighted they thought that.

Another time with her family, her father ran off to retrieve something and she looked at the rest of us (well, not me) and said, "Isn't he so cute???" Her male cousin said, "Ewwww! He's your father!"

I don't know what to make of it. I suspect they do it to literally edge out SMs, but it sounds as if your husband did this all along with his kids. And I wasn't in Italy with them, where whatever they were doing sent a very wrong message to onlookers.

My SD is touchy-feely and coquettish. As an only child and the only female in her extended family, it seems to be how SD relates to all the uncles and male cousins. I think it works for her and she's never had female competition.

Do you think your SD has always been like this, or do you think it's ramped up because of your presence?

With the state of things in our country, currently: the Roy Moore mentality, church pastors who molest, rape culture, “locker room” talk, I could go on and on and on and on... there would be NO WAY this would be tolerated. This is NOT normal in 2018. I’d put a full-stop to this, like yesterday.

Have you thought about handing the mini wives some lube as they put on their show? }:)

I always find these stories so strange.

I was close to my dad when I was young, went everywhere with him. But at a certain age, I just naturally became aware that certain things were no longer appropriate, or comfortable, for that matter. I mean, I didn't even want my dad to know that I was getting boobs! Sitting on his lap at fifteen? No.freaking.way. And there's no way my dad would have allowed it.

DH has always been close with our niece and she liked sitting in his recliner with him. DH stopped that when she was about seven or eight. She's fifteen, now, and I can't imaging that she would even attempt it.

You end it by leaving every time he does it. And if he doesn't get it through his sick head after that, leave and don't come back.

Gross! :sick:

My DH was the same way. :sick: He saw it as being a "good dad" that his girls still wanted to be that close to him. He saw it as an easy way to give them time and attention. He didn't see them at the "women" they were becoming, he still saw them as little girls.

We would all get out of the car and the girl skids would go right to DH and hold his hands (interlaced) and they would go skipping down the parking lot to wherever we were going while I was left in the dust. DH told me he would always hold his girls hands no matter how old they were.

One time DH was leaning against the counter and YSD was leaning into him, so her back against his chest and she was just moving up and down and all around, like she couldn't get close enough to him. I literally pushed them both out of the way to get into the cupboard they were leaning against and gave them the nastiest look.

MSD once took a comb out of her purse while we were waiting to get seated for dinner in a restaurant and started combing DH's beard.

I could go on and on. I made it VERY clear to DH that what he was allowing was not appropriate given the girl skids ages. It took him A LONG time to get it. I was the evil SM trying to keep him from being affectionate with his children, jealous of them and the attention he was giving them.

It wasn't until MSD 16 at the time got pregnant that he finally realized that they weren't little girls anymore and their behavior was gross.

I do think partly the girls did it to exclude me but I also think they did it because they wanted their dad's attention.

Society is so BIG on daddy's girls and princesses, etc. and it often correlates to dad's "dating" their daughters and being super affectionate and loving and it goes to the extreme. So when they are younger, it may be okay for hand holding and sitting on laps, etc. but as they get older they don't know how to let it go because it's almost been ingrained in them, that is how you are a good dad.

Only one option makes me uncomfortable between seeing a pic of a really young kid in a bathtub with silly soap hair and bubbles a seeing pic of teenage girl riding her dad's crotch.

Care to guess which one?

Betcha many other peeps might be uncomfortable seeing an actual pic of daddy/daughter bonding time. Post it to fb, tagging the SD... "Hey SD - thought you might want this pic I took of you two"