Did. She. Get. What. She. Deserves ??

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I have been helping my GF with all around the house. She has been working long hours delivering the mail. She doesn't get any help unless she asks for it from her spoiled brat daughter 22yrs. Last night my GF fell going down the steps outside while taking trash out. Her brat daughter could see the trash needs taking out. But she needs to be told what to do everytime. So, i guess if she doesn't want make her daughter do anything, then she gets what she gets. Just pisses me off so bad !!!
Here i am at GF's house and down the hall lays her daughter watching her netflicks and playing on social media. Just can't stand her !! What do you do ???

Leave.

No one deserves to be

No one deserves to be hurt.

But she enabled and allowed her daughter to get this way. The girl is 22. She's an adult but being allowed to live at home and just watch Netflicks. Why would she do any different?

Very few people are willing to do anything above what they are asked. It's our nature to take the easy way out.

You have multiple options. Do nothing, Try to change the child on your own, Try to make girl friend change the kid, Demand the child leave, Leave yourself.... There's others I'm sure. But you have to pick a path.

You can’t change anyone else,

You can’t change anyone else, you can only change yourself.

gf needs to step up to the

gf needs to step up to the plate and get her daughter to launch. at 22 daughter is an adult and needs to go to college and find work.

we have a young man in the family who is 30. he wont go to college and wont find work. he is addicted to social media and video games. he wears his hair long and dyed purple. the family garage is filled with expensive musical instruments and he plans of being a rock star. his best friend is his own father. the bm left when the boy was a baby and was a drug addict and alcoholic, so the father raised him by himself.

all of the boys high school friends went to college and now have jobs. the young man and his father do everything together. it is very unhealthy.

at 30 there is no sign of this boy man growing up.

Thanks Sugar, Good comments.

Thanks Sugar, Good comments. Some other comments I don't understand. They seem to be negative and not sure why that it. Maybe it is just cause any forum is going to have a cross section of society on it and there are people with mental disorders out there. Just can't be helped. That's my take.
The 22DD did go to college. Just long enough to drop out. Only like 3 times though. Now the excuse my GF gives is that she needs to stay at home and payoff her college tuition she incurred as a result of dropping out. She then went to 2 different beauty schools and dropped out. And as anyone knows , there is lots of money to be made as a beautician, NOT.
As far as one comment, "Stay home", as one of my options. Just sad that there are people in the world like that. REALLY SAD

OP -I know you love your

OP -I know you love your girlfriend, but trust me, the situation is not going to get any better. The girl is 22! She is a woman! She needs to be out on her own, working etc.

Sadly, you are not in a position to say anything about her daughter.

Thanks She or driver or

Thanks She or driver or whateve,
You are right, she is 22yrs. She , however, is not a woman. I want to say her growth has been stunted by girlfriend doing everything for her. She is like 22yrs going on 16teen. I will say this in her behalf, she , the 22 yr old , has a good work ethic. She is a waitress and has been at the same restaurant for 2yrs. She is now bar tending and does something with catering.
Another issue that is pointed out to me a lot by GF, her dad, the 22yr old, left Michigan and moved with his new wife to Knoxville TN. She doesn't see him or does she or has she ever been invited to go visit him. She talks to him on the phone and seen him for an hour at Christmas. So that is brought up as to why she has problems with men, i.e. me and whatever else we can blame on that "daddy issues."

When adult kids live w/their

When adult kids live w/their parents the parent-child dynamic is still at play. Mom is still mom and although sd is 22 she is still a kid and will have to be told what to do as long as she's still in mom's house. My 21 year old son lives w/me and although he helps out and pays rent, most of the time I still have to tell him what to do.

When ds18 came home for the break from college I had to remind him to do his dishes and pick up. He does just fine at college because his room is shared and really teeny, no dishes because of the cafeteria.

If SD continues to live there your gf should lay out what she's responsible for. My son didn't get the trash out to the corner in time and so it didn't get picked up. Now he has to pay me $10 for that. If he leaves his dishes in the sink and I have to do them he pays me as well. This rule has helped curb a lot of the slobbiness.

4 years at Uni with roommates

4 years at Uni with roommates was the best thing that ever happened to my 22 year old!

He had a roommate that was an only child and expected to be waited on hand and foot. He would never do anything without being told and it drove my son nuts!
He likes the guy and still has a great friendship with him but he got a big dose of his own medicine. He never leaves his plate in the sink anymore. He always takes the garbage out and he even cleans the kitty litter without being asked.

It was refreshing for the 6 moths before we bought a house and left him on his own.

Wow Not So, That is an

Wow Not So,
That is an encouraging story of success. Congrats to your son for being focused on a carrier in something.
DD22 would come home from college every weekend even though she had a dorm room. My GF would tell her to stay at school and make some friends. She did not and eventually dropped out. JUST SAD !!!
I say go to college or trade school or something to get an education with something you could be at least content with if not happy.
My son 27yrs is now framing houses. He has been working in temps of -10 below pounding nails here in Michigan all winter. He has never been any kind of student but, I give him all the credit in the world for doing work like that in those temps. Sad thing, he gets 12 bucks an hour from the guy he is working for. His boss says I would pay him more if I didn't have to pick him up every day. My son doesn't have a license and hasn't for 3yrs now. DUI's

My son was across the country

My son was across the country in Uni, coming home wasn’t an option. He came home summers, Christmas and reading weeks. And that was expensive! We did most of it with air miles.

He definitely grew up while away. I think it was very good for him.

Thanks Still, My GF would

Thanks Still,
My GF would never charge her DD for anything. Not rent not nothing. How would she be able to afford Pot if she is paying her mom for anything. Mom helps DD with car insurance, car repairs , buys all the food (except for all the groceries I've bought lately for the 2 of them) pays the lot rent and gas and electric.
This one is really tough for me to witness, the filth. Ya, that's right, the filth.
I wondered down the hallway to the daughters area of the trailer. "Oh my God" her bed room is just trashed out , the bathroom trashed out, her pot smoking room is somewhat trashed. I can only shake my head and be glad it ain't my house !!!!!!!
She,DD22 , has got some serious mental issues, depression or narcissism or something weird !!!!