SD wants to spend time w her Dad on her BM's week
Have you had to deal with the fact that your SKs want to spend time with their Dad, even on BM's time? How do you deal with that?
My BF has SD17 50/50, every other week. Still, we sometimes need to entertain her when she is with her BM, because she will call her Dad and ask what he is doing, and can she come too. She is always pleasant to be around, and at least BF doesn't stand me up to go with SD, but I still find it upsetting when I was planning on spending some couple time alone with him, and we end up a threesome.
I would think at her age, that she could spend time with her friends or on her own and not need to be with Daddy... I certainly wasn't like that at her age.
Of course I wouldn't dream of complaining to my BF about it, because if it were up to him, he would always be with his DD.
Any words of wisdom for me?? 
I think you need to have a
I think you need to have a chat with the BF. Not in a nagging, complaining way but you should be able to have some couple time with him and should be able to express that you want that.
Inviting his daughter along is no better (in my opinion) than standing you up to be with her.
Doesn't she have any friends?
We do have some couple time
We do have some couple time together, but it's pretty much only when SD can't be there, not because BF wanted to spend time only with me. If it were up to him, he would always be with both SD and me. It's only when we're in bed that she's not welcome, LOL. As she gets older (she's 17), I'm hoping she'll continue to have less and less time to spend with her Dad (much to his chagrin), and then I'll have him more to myself.
We do have some couple time
We do have some couple time together, but it's pretty much only when SD can't be there, not because BF wanted to spend time only with me.
That sucks. How long have you been dating this guy? Has it always been like this?
I couldn't be with someone who made me feel like I was never a priority.
I agree with hereiam - if my
I agree with hereiam - if my husband didn't want to spend time with me alone and didn't make me a priority then I wouldn't be with him.
What he says about that is
What he says about that is that since I am included in his activities with his DD when it's «her» weekend, then I shouldn't mind for her to be included in «my» weekends.
I encourage him to spend time one on one with her (on her time), but the fact is, she has friends and other activities, so things with her Dad are planned at the last minute, when she has nothing else to do. So we end up making plans that she could be interested in (on her WE), my BF proposes them to her, and she chooses to come or not.
We've been dating for 3
We've been dating for 3 years. I think he has a lot of guilt about his divorce, so he wants to have any time he can spend with his DD.
He has also mentionned that he feels bad for his DD that apparently the BM doesn't do as many fun activities with her, so he's also compensating for that, which is crazy, IMO.
Then he shouldn't date, he
Then he shouldn't date, he should just sit around, waiting for his daughter to want to hang out with him.
Google "mini wife" that's
Google "mini wife" that's what you have on your hands
It's good that at 17 she has
It's good that at 17 she has a close enough relationship with him that she wants to spend time with him.
That being said you still need privet time with him. Even if she lived with you full time you'd still need and be allowed it. She's not a child and can understand being told no. You need to speak with your partner and before hand clarify if an event / time / day is ok for intrusions or if it's your guy's time.
"Date night" rules need to be set. That doesnt mean it has to be an exact day but when making plans identify it as a "date". It's healthy for your relationship and sets boundries.
Now of course not every event should be date night but you get the idea.
That's good advice, thanks!
That's good advice, thanks!
Make arrangements for a date
Make arrangements for a date night for the 2 of you. If/When he suggests SD comes along ask him does he like bringing his daughter along on every date night? And when she starts dating will he be going along as well? Remind him that he has a delightful daughter and she is a sweetheart however you married him and would like to go out without his daughter stringing along every time.
Actually it is sad we have to clarify a 'date night' for our spouses/partners. When I grew up my parents got a sitter and that was it. We didn't even consider going unless we were invited beforehand.
I don't think kids nowadays
I don't think kids nowadays are anything similar to children of the past, they are supposed to be mentally three years behind children of the 70's so she is really a 14 yo.
I would immediately start calling my plans "date night" because you don't bring your kids on dates. If he doesn't get it then start bringing some friends with you guys so he can see how it feels.