BF won't forgive me for not wanting to live w SD
Long time lurker, first time writer.
After a few tentative talks with my BF about living together with him and his daughter (17), my feeling is I should stay put until his DD launches, which could be a few years.
We have been together for 3 years. We love each other so much and would love to live together, but I would like to first have serious talks about how things would be with his DD (rules, values, etc). My BF's feeling is «everything will be alright, and why should we talk about problems that do not (yet) exist?». These talks always create a lot of tension and that does not reassure me.
I do not have children and am 42, so the thought of losing my privacy is a big deal to me, and since right now things are going well between his DD and myself, I feel we should just wait a few more years before moving in together. Apparently she wants me to move in with them, but I think she had unrealistic expectations.
Now my BF says the fact I do not want to live with his DD erodes our love, and he can't forgive me for it.