Liar Liar pants on fire
There are some days that I just really hate BM.
Two weeks ago she text DH telling him that he needed to register SD because registration day for her school was during our weekend (last Saturday).
OK, no problem. Last Friday, I looked it up because I wanted to know what the timeframe for registration was. BM had the date wrong. It's actually this coming Saturday, which is during BM's time. I told DH and told him to pass the info on to BM.
I get home from work yesterday and DH immediately jumps into "Shitty called. She says she can't...(at this point I immediately think she isn't buying school supplies. She does this every year last minute)...register SD because she has to work on Saturday"
Apparently, her first reaction was to blame DH because he said he would do it. He reminded her that he said that because he thought it was during his time. Then she started with her poor me bull shit.
Usually, I get really mad when she pulls this shit. But this time I just said fine, but we need her information. "We" can't register SD for under someone else's address.
So, DH calls SD out and asked her if BM send her information for us. (Remember she thought we were going to do it last Saturday) NOPE. I have no idea how she thought we were going to register her.
I told SD to text BM and tell her that we don't have a problem doing it BUT she has to find a way to get her info to us. And what does dumb a$$ BM respond with...What do you need. Seriously, She has 4 kids. Two are 18 and 20 now. She should already know what we need.
She ends up emailing her drivers license, her electric bill and her car insurance card. I have no idea if this is going to work because the electric bill has DH's last name, her driver's license has ex-husbands last name and the car insurance doesn't have an address on it. BUT it's not HER problem. We have to deal with this mess.
All this and BM absolutely could register SD if she wanted to. The place she works at doesn't open until 11. Registration begins at 8am. A good parent would get her child to registration and still have time to get to work on time. Also, she's been working at that bar for years and claims to be good friends with the owner. I'm sure if she explained the situation to her boss, she could get to work a little late (but she really could register her and get to work on time)
SD herself was pretty upset. She said that BM can take a week to go on vacation with new boyfriend but can't time to help her out. She said "Mom never takes time to help us out (talking about her and her siblings).
Another part of the crazy, when the kids were younger, DH always wanted to be there when there were registered but BM refused to cooperate. Once DH gave up, BM started demanding that he does it now. ????? She's out of her mind.
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Sucks, but seems like SD has
Sucks, but seems like SD has a good grasp on how much of a flake the mom seems to be.
Don't go through the SD. DH
Don't go through the SD.
DH should have messaged BM up front with nothing more than, "I believe you got the date of registration wrong. It is actually X. Since you have the kids you will need to do it." And leave it at that. She tries any other crap too bad her job to figure it out.
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Exactly BM's visitation
Exactly BM's visitation time....It's BM's time. The manipulation poor me bulls*** is exactly what she is using. That is her problem that he has to work.
I have a little Registration
I have a little Registration BM BS of my own. Yesterday at football practice BM was at the concession stand as I approached to get a snack for BS1. She was ordering a spirit shirt and the lady asked her what SS's number was. BM tells her that she's not sure because she wasn't the one to register him. Instead of just asking me what number I put down since I was less than a foot away standing right beside her and Fiance3 she chose to tell the lady she'd have to get back to her when she finds out his number from her ex (DH) in this exasperated attitude like he's the problem. Ha, I guess I could have helped her out but I've done that for years and it's never done me any good so I just order my kids some sour patch kids and we went on our way. You ride that struggle bus BM!
As for your situation, if it was my DH he would just register SD with our address and information. What really comes to the house from the school via post these days anyways? It's unlikely BM would even notice and it would make registration less of a hassle for y'all. I registered SS last year. BM didn't even ask about it or SS's Kinder testing and after K registration the files just roll over. We don't have to re-register every year. I hope it's the same for you so next year won't be a problem.
Haha Quote of the Day! Thanks
Haha Quote of the Day! Thanks for the laugh, TOTALLY get it 'cuz BM over here also cray.
"You ride that struggle bus BM!"
Is SD going to a new school?
Is SD going to a new school? Why in the world does she have to "register"? And honestly just because "registration" day is decreed on some particular day by the school doesn't mean that you can't register a kid at any other time. I'm confused as to what this whole "registration" thing is all about to begin with?
I was thinking the same
I was thinking the same thing. Then I remembered that 9th grade and up here you have to re-register every year, but they still keep your info. You basically just go in and tell them the child will be returning, verify info, and get a locker number. SD's a teen. She my have to register, but I think bugging BM for info is just that. Bugging her. If you DH agreed to register her then he should just do it. If they need info he can't provide then BM can provide it later.
I really think this is just a
I really think this is just a case of you and/or your DH making a mountain out of a mole hill. If your DH told BM he'd register her then he should just do it. If he didn't want to he could have said no and made her deal with it. To me this is petty. School registration is really not that big of a deal.
Could be that BM did a
Could be that BM did a passive-agressive "error" to set this drama up? Only asking because that's how the BM in our situ plays. Very sick M.O. but definite pattern of using chaos to generate more chaoe & control. Normal people don't even imagine acting like that...