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Sibling Rivalry.. UGH.

ESMOD's picture

So, almost got into it with OSD this weekend. Well, full disclosure, did a little bit.

She had dropped her 3 mo old baby off on Saturday so she could go to a craft show where she was selling some products (like scentsy candle or pampered chef type products.. you know get people to have parties to guilt their friends into buying crap).

The baby was going to stay with MIL over night and she was coming back to get him the next day.

So, we were there when she came over with a friend to pick up the baby. I was talking with MIL about YSD who was having an issue because her EX put a cable bill in her name without her permission. I was helping her to tell them that she didn't sign up.. nor did she want this service.

Anyway, so OSD in her "i am better than you voice" pipes up and says "It serves her right.. karma is a bitch" I turned to her and told her that wasn't nice and that her sister did NOT deserve it. She then comes out and says. "well she was cheating on him and she deserves what she gets... and she posts pictures online where she is wearing almost nothing". (pics in a bathing suit on vacation ..sheesh)

I told her "Pot meet kettle there honey I've seen plenty of you in skimpy clothes and I told her that her sister didn't cheat on the boy and that her EX was not perfect and that her sister had good reasons to break up with him".

I wanted to point at the baby and tell her that little bundle of karma must be from all the times she has been a total and complete bitch. (she got pregnant by accident and is now married to a guy that in her own words she is happy that he is gone a lot because she doesn't even like to talk to him). But I got out of there before I said something that really cut her down..lol.

I know she is really bitter right now. Her sister just got a great promotion and makes more than her older sister. She has her own place. She has two cars she owns. She isn't tied down to some guy she doesn't even like because she got knocked up.

You know what? Family is family and even if someone in my family was in the wrong, I wouldn't go out of my way to spread gossip about them. In this case, she was just assuming something that she had no real knowledge of. Why does she care anyway.. oh yeah... she is so insecure that she is afraid that if someone thinks something bad about her sister then they will think it about her.

I know that her sister was working 7 days a week and busting her tail. Her EX was spending more and more time out drinking with the boys. He wasn't paying his share of bills and she was covering all the costs and meals out etc.. They were living together at the time and she would have had zero chance to see anyone.

I try to stay out of stuff.. but this older daughter makes it so hard to like her sometimes.

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AJanie's picture

She sounds awful jealous of her sister!!! It is nice that you defended her. I have some family members that love to spread gossip and cut people down - and they are doing NO BETTER in life than the people they are gossiping about. Really makes me uncomfortable even being around them.

PS: I hate scentsy, pampered chef, and all of those other "parties" ... not my idea of fun.

ESMOD's picture

Her mom is/was famous for being a "rep" for so many things. My DH said she always had a get rich quick scheme.. she would start out all hardcore then lose interest.

When he heard his older daughter was doing this book thing he said. Oh.. Baby "EX"... wonder how long it will last.

Her grandmother defends her to the moon.. even when she is cutting down her sister which I find incredibly uncalled for. GM needs to tell her that spreading gossip is wrong.. oh wait... GM is the town crier herself.

AJanie's picture

Apple doesn't fall far from the tree!

My SIL is always a "rep" for something. She is the biggest user and taker around, any way to make a quick buck for herself. And heaven forbid you declined to go to one of her "events" ... she would be passive-aggressive mad for weeks.

ESMOD's picture

No, this girl didn't lose another sister. She has always been a cold person.

In fact her GM is always pining away about how she thinks the girl is not loving on her baby enough. I actually defend her there because the baby seems well cared for and happy.. so I am guessing she is more demonstrative when she is alone.

I do know there were some rumors I heard about some things that may have happened to her when she was a baby/toddler. DH worked offshore and was gone for long stretches. I always got a vibe from her that she had been molested... or something had happened. She was just such a hard kid to reach. I never really pushed a close relationship and just let things happen naturally. But, I always had that feeling that something wasn't 100% right about her. Then again, her mother is also a loon... so maybe it was inherited?

Thumper's picture

The OLD, "Family IS family" mentality is why so many families shrug off crappy behavior. Because of that crappy behavior towards each other then your stuck with drama, ugliness, fighting, sibling rivalry and awful holiday family gatherings. Then included it that all the gossip and back stabbing.

I don't get it SMH...

You stuck up for the young Mom---nice job. Honestly I would stay as far away from the smart mouthed one as humanly possible.

Thank GOD my family and siblings are not like what I hear so much about. I did walk away from my deceased sisters adult daughter. One of the best decisions I made in life.

Blood may be thicker than water but you can drown in them both.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Good for you, ESMOD!!

I get a little thrill each time I read a post about someone standing up against skid negativity, probably because "policy" in my DH's FOO is to never, ever, acknowledge or call out bad behavior. Guidance or correction? Gosh no.