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The4Nuggets's picture

BM finished school. She hasn't worked in years, by choice. Asked for a raise in support - and got it. Effing Finally she is done with college after switching up her degrees/subjects ten times and FINALLY, she has gotten a job. As a teacher. At SD's school.

*Yes, DH is going to file for a review for CS to get that extra money back we've been paying since she hasn't worked. This post is about something else though*

In the previous years, we have offered to get SD school supplies or clothes. BM always made it seem like no big deal. Once she was upset that we got school supplies, so we mostly just take her clothes shopping at the end of summer. Last year we got her some school supplies off of her school list.
Again, BM never asked, or cared. She even told us to not worry about it and NEVER did she EVER mention getting supplies for SD's teachers.

(I don't know if that's a thing. My kids aren't in school age yet. But again, we were never told or asked to get stuff for her teachers)

Anyway. BM is now a teacher. SD talked about how she is excited and has been decorating her new classroom all summer. Great!

BM asked to take SD early to take her school shopping. She mentioned a specific store which is a clothing store.
We asked BM if SD needed anything and BM said she needs EVERYTHING. That was her response. "I haven't gotten her anything yet. No school supplies or clothes yet". Then she proceeds to stay that SD needs to stock up on school supplies. She needs triple what is on the list. She then said that we should get her teacher supplies too and lots of candy.

(meanwhile, she's pinning candy treat ideas for her students on pinterest)

I told DH that I feel like she's just trying to get stuff for HER OWN classroom. Is that not obvious? In the past, getting things were never an issue. It was always a "you can iffff you wannnntttttttttt but no biggie" and now all of a sudden she needs a trillion things AND her teacher needs things too. (She doesn't even know who her teacher is yet - we asked)

I told DH that I rather take SD clothes shopping. Like we usually do. We can get a couple stuff off her school list but just enough for her.
Dh said it didn't matter to him if BM took things for her own classroom because in HIS mind, it's all meant for SD but what she does with it is out of his control.
How can he not mind? He's paying more in CS than he should be. She already gets enough of his money as is, so why throw more at her?

We should go clothes shopping. So we did. Today was a clothes shopping adventure for SD. We got her a few of cute things. Made sure they all fit. Made sure they were all within school code, and then I removed all of the tags and folded them neatly in a bag to take back to BM's. We also got her half of the stuff on her school list.

I can't be too far off in saying that she's just trying to get more things for her own classroom.
I actually contemplated making her a basket of school supplies to congratulate her on her new job. But i'm not into giving mixed signals.
She's been kissing MAJOR ass lately since she got this job. I'm thinking she just doesn't want DH to file a review so he can stop paying so much because she now has income.

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Maxwell09's picture

Only get what's listed on the child's school supply list if he is court ordered. Anything extra is just extra. If BM wants extra school supplies then she order it online in bulk for her own class. I've never hear of a teachers supply list. I know most school send a list of school supplies each grade level needs and the teachers might also ask the kids to bring a few specific items for their use in her class like a colored folder for papers or binder but anything extra like expo markers, germX, those kinds of things that are obviously for the teacher are "wish list" items and are optional.

The4Nuggets's picture

We followed the list for her grade level. I never heard of a teacher supply list either. We don't have one from her teacher so i'm not going to assume it actually exists. It never did before, not sure why it would now.
CO doesn't specify anything about this kind of stuff. He pays CS, Insurance, 75% copays and 50% extra activities (likes sports, gymnastics, etc). That's really all it states. We don't mind getting her stuff though, so long as we (mostly IIIIII) know it's going to SD and only SD.

Maxwell09's picture

I'm all for buying the kid extras for school if I know it's going to him. I love school supply shopping but I'm not about to supply a teacher's bundle filled with extra items when the school charges each kid 40$ so they can order their supplies in bulk. I think the DH did right by his daughter by getting her clothes she liked and a few things. BM can take care of the rest. Being a teacher doesn't exempt her from being a parent of a student.

The4Nuggets's picture

This is all good to know. Yup, elementary school. I never heard of it either, or like you said, the teachers let the students know about it the first day of school.
BM was suggesting SO many things that DH should get. Never was like this before in the previous years. Only difference now is she has become an elem teacher herself.

Also that sucks they did that with the supplies! I mean, it's not a terrible idea but it's definitely something they should let the parents know way before school starts so they can get simple things. If I were told the supplies would be combined and shared (maybe so that kids who are less fortunate aren't left out), I would buy simple things. Not cute themed things specific to my kid's liking.
They dropped the ball on that one. Hope they learned and figured out a way to organize that better and inform parents before school shopping starts.

The4Nuggets's picture

Oh heck no! We are in different districts.
I thought it was terrifying when I heard she was becoming a teacher. Eek.