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ways your DH supports you or makes you happy

new.to.this's picture

so much of the conversation on here can be about the SKIDS/tough times in life, and thankfully this is a healthy place to be able to vent, but I would love to hear stories about how everyone manages as a "couple." a lot of SMs say they probably wouldn't do it all over again if they had known what they were truly getting in to...are there some here who would say because of DH they would do it again?

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ESMOD's picture

My DH indulged my crazy chicken fantasies. I mentioned offhand I wanted chickens one day and came home to a coop full of laying hens and had an egg the next day. A man who LISTENS to you and then ACTS is a keeper.

I say I might not do it again, but knowing now, what I do, I would go back in time and find him before psycho ex got him...lol.

I bluster too but I do care for his kids and in the end, I think it's worth it. Wish BM would get her act together, but that's unlikely.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

DH looked on in dismay when I tried to be a poultry keeper--first chickens, then muscovy ducks (for the record, I prefer the muscovy ducks) but even though I had a huge enclosed coop, something kept getting to them so I ended up giving them away. So sad about that. But he didn't try to stop me, which is good. Didn't except with feeding and watering though.

notsobad's picture

I would go back in time and find him before psycho ex got him...lol.

Ain't that the truth!!

I wouldn't actually change anything because my skids are really good, so far anyway. And I wouldn't give up my kids for anything!

But if you could go back and not marry your DH because of his crazy ex and kids, why not just go back a little further and eliminate the problem!

DH and I should have met in HS, I went to a school across the city but should have gone to the one he did. We know so many of the same people, went to the same parties, hung out at the same mall but never met.
My son says it's like the twilight zone, in an alternate universe we did meet in school and not 20ish years later.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

My DH loves me so much, and I him. That's what has gotten us through the 20+ years of stepcrap.

He brings me coffee in bed each morning.
Always opens doors for me - and he's disabled.
Supports and encourages my expensive horse hobby.
Handles any dead animals so I don't have to see them. (We have a farm)
I have to prevent him spending $$ on me.
Holds my hand when we walk.
Puts our marriage first.
Is fiercely loyal.

ESMOD's picture

I had horses too for almost the entire time so far. I actually just found them new homes recently because it was just getting to be too much work and responsibility since DH works out of town so much. But ditto handling the dead animals I hate them!

Last In Line's picture

DH and I have the same life goals, the same feelings about what we both consider the "important" things in life, and generally just get along really well. He makes music, I enjoy music. The skids, at this point, haven't really caused a huge number of problems. There are things I don't like but they aren't really extreme (yet...they are both still pre-teens tho, so who knows what's to come!).

I would 100% do it again.

robin333's picture

My DH is great. I'd do all over again.

Both of us want the other to be their best and happiest. We're each other's cheerleaders.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

DH is a great dad and partner, and he's not afraid to stand up for me or our family. I don't know if you can really ask for anything more.

Cover1W's picture

DP is great...we are getting married in September and we can't wait. I love him more every single day and cannot wait to see him when I get home.
Yes, we have issues with SDs, but compared to most here they aren't that bad, just majorly annoying sometimes and it's good to have this board as a second-check and for advice.

DP is kind, considerate, funny and smart. He doesn't hide his emotions from me and expresses to everyone how much he loves me (and vice versa)...
He is slow to help sometimes, but always comes through when I really need it. He'll make sure I have time off from working (both work and at home) and helps make dinner several nights a week. He brings me coffee and toast on weekend mornings if I'm not doing yoga. He puts up with my neat-ness requirement with little complaining and lets me do stuff to the house without requiring any "permission" - although I always run it by him first in case he cares.
He gives good hugs!

Wait a minute's picture

My DH puts our me and our marriage first. He would literally do anything for me, and he makes my heart melt. He has a 4 year old son and we're expecting our first child together. I know he'll be an amazing father. My ss is a great kid and can be a bit of a handful but my husband tolerates no disrespect. As a result, ss and I have a good relationship - I can't say the same for his step-dad though (my husband has talked to him over and over about how he treats his step-dad, if BM keeps allowing it, he can only do so much). No matter what his relationship with bm is, he takes care of his son and actually parents him. My husband is a MAN and I love it! He takes care of business and takes care of me as well. He'll go out and get me whatever I need no matter what time of day it is. He's so thoughtful and so damn handsome!

Tuff Noogies's picture

sir breaks-a-lot is my other half, two parts of a whole. i would marry him again and again and again, and wouldnt do a damn thing differently. we have our ups and downs, but they are learning experiences that actually draw us closer. he confides in me things he would never say to any other living creature - that's a huge support to me because it demonstrates his trust, comfort, and faith in me. and i love that.

he may not always handle things the way i would, and that's a-ok. but when push comes to shove, when it all comes right down to it, he will fight tooth and nail for me. and he knows i would for him.

and he's hot as h3ll. Wink

hereiam's picture

My DH absolutely loves me unconditionally and would do anything for me. He puts up with all of my crap and loves me despite my issues. I can be myself with him, which is not something I could always do with other men I dated.

Nineteen years and he still looks at me like he did when we first got together.