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I am so done with the sd and duh crap. Ive tried to make sure bf knows all he can to protect himself with the whole bm thing..trying to get court documents and keeping records and not just giving bm everything she wants.

For some reason..he gave up all but 1 of his days with sd this week. He is supposed to have her 4 nights and bm 3. Anytime school is out he offers her the extra day. Sd didny have school today so bm said she would keep her til drop off wed.

Thurs sd has a school thing that gets out late so gma offered to keep sd overnight so she cab get more sleep sibce we live 20 min from school. Sure no prob. But now bm is apparently taking sd that night even though bm lives 2 hrs away so she is taking her home with her..wont be there til about 11pm and have to leave by 630 to get sd to school on time.

Duh said okay!!

Bm is setting shit up to try to take his time away because she is prego and wants to quit working soo she wants to take sd and have bf pay her child support so she doesnt have to work. I told him no fucking way am i okay with that happening. I have to work to support my kids, this bitch isnt going to take $ from my household because she doesnt want to work.

I am so angry he allowed yhis to happen this week because it makes him look awful. He did it because sd has been saying she misses her mom.

Bm engages in pa and we just had an issue where sd wouldnt listen to the sitter because in her words she isnt her mom and it caused my 15mth old to get hurt from being knocked into a wall. Like huge lump on head type of hurt.

Sd was grounded for 2 weeks in her room afterschool for that because it was also same day we got bote from her teacher saying she isnt listening in class. Sds behaviour has been ridiculous since bm really only sees her 1 day a week (sd is with sitters on bms days) and bm is prego.

Bm and her family think sd can do no wrong. Shes 7. Shes a child..children make mistakes. They didnt agree that she should have been punished at all. So they set up playdates for her i. The time between school and pick up and bought her a bunch of stuff.

I do not see how this situation will ever get better. Send sd to her moms and my boys lose funds in this house which is going to be horrible because my one toddler is autistic and we are about to start his therapies which cost alot. Or fight to keep sd here with her increasingly bad behavior and deal with bms bs.

We also just rented a larger place which costs alot so all kids would have more room and it just all makes me so sick that ill be paying for this place so a child that will only be here 4 nights a month if bm has her way to have a large room.

I love my kids with bf, but dear god if i had known all the shit i know now. Id of left him alone.