she did it again!
WEll BM has yet again let down her daughter . BM hasnt seen SD8 in over 2 weeks (except for an hour and a half on christmas day). We had a 4 day on off custody, but she cant seem to keep up her end because she is basically a selfish lazy piece of crap. Anyway she calls DH on sat nite and asks when she can see SD. He says whenever you want. So she says after church on sunday would be good. She asks to speak with SD and tells her that mommy is gonna pick her up the next day and they will do something fun. SD is happy about this and looking forward to it. Not to mention me needing a little break. Next day BM calls....can you tell SD thta i cant do it, im not feeling well. Maybe some other time. DH says sure , thanks for letting her down AGAIN..and hangs up. IM so pissed at this woman.
My SD's BM bails a lot too
Sometimes she "goes on trips" and says she won't be back for weeks upon weeks. Refuses to give a date. Then, if SD has something on BMs night and DH calls weeks ahead to ask if BM could have SD a different night that week, BM says no thank you. Then lets SD know that "your Dad makes it too hard. So there won't be any 'make ups' if you can't come the night I mandate is mine."
At one point a few months ago, BM told DH that the weekly overnights (all the visitation BM is still taking 75 % of the time) aren't "working out" for her. She cancels for funerals a lot. Evidently, it's not good for your health to be a friend to or patient of BM. And she doesn't work with terminally ill people either. So that's a little scary if there are really that many funerals to attend.
I don't get it either DL. Except to say that these BMs aren't just selfish. They are mentally ill.
AND selfish.
"Om Tare Tutare Ture Mama Ayurpunye Jnana Putin Kuru Svaha"
~Sita Tara Mantra
How about SELFISHLY MENTAL?
It seems that SELFISHLY MENTAL is a common psycho ailment amongst BioParents in blended families.
I wonder why that is?
Best regards,
So how was SD?
You mentioned that "she did it AGAIN" so I'm wondering how SD reacted to it.
My a$$hole ex often did this to my boys over the years- and the pattern continues to this day. In the beginning, they would get very upset each and every time,(especially my younger son, who put his "daddy" up on that pedestal) but now when he does it, they have just learned to shrug it off.
And, quite frankly, I don't know which is harder to watch- the fact that they use to be absolutely crushed time after time when he did it, or the stark realization of the fact that they have to now face- my dad is just a complete a$$hole!
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
she was ok
Basically she is getting used to getting burned by mom. In fact one time not to long ago. DH and SD were waiting at a resturant for BM to show to pick up SD, SD says do ya think mom is gonna blow us off again?...Its really sad!
24/7
We have SS16 basically 24/7 since he was "dumped" on our doorstep two years ago by BM-
I used to look forward to the odd "break" she would consent to give us-but that too has sadly gone by the wayside.
SS now works, skii's, has his social network and they both "blow" each other off every other weekend she is supposed to have him-
The mutual excuses not to see each other are quite amusing however...
I am BM to two grown sons and I cannot imagine going so long without seeing them-unbelievable really.
Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!