Has anyone else out there had a really bad therapist when dealing with mental issues of a teenage SD??
Happy New Year everyone! I have an SD 15 that has been having serious behavior and emotional issues for a while now. BM is seriously disturbed herself, and refused mental health treatment for SD for a long time UNTIL she came upon a LICSW who she loved. This therapist bought every load of crap BM laid out there and was so inappropriately favorable of BM no matter what facts of neglect were raised. That, I can forgive, but she had SD15 for several months and when I say she made her SO much worse, that is an understatement. SD 15 is spoiled rotten and thinks she is the center of the universe. She then found cutting as her way to blackmail DH into doing whatever she wanted. This went haywire while she was seeing this therapist as they kept saying it was DH's fault because he divorced BM (BM filed BTW) and gave an enormous list of demands to DH and thought BM was a great Mom (the government thinks otherwise given her DUI and problems with Oxy). However, there was no way to make this therapist listen. I, as the SM, was considered worse than garbage and she was blatantly hostile towards me. Fast forward a few months and SD 15 ends up in a psychiatric hospital. Finally, someone says yes she has borderline personality disorder and is highly manipulative and does all this stuff to get attention. However, the damage caused by the first quack was unbelievable. She basically coddle her more (which was really not a good idea) and now she is a complete disaster in the outpatient programs. If you dare defy her, she goes completely crazy and threatens to kill herself, cut herself etc. The new docs said she has a sever disorder, is very entitled etc. But the first one not only made her worse but propped up BM and her crazed and neglectful parenting.
Anyway, just wondering if anyone else has had this experience. Being an SM is bad enough, but when someone who is supposed to help, and is getting paid to help, actually creates harm and makes the situation worse, it really gets to me.