Mom not accepting stepson
I'm reaching out to see what others views are about this and to see if anyone understands both or either sides or has even been there.
My Mom has always been loving and caring for as long as I have known her, but when DH and SS came along things changed. I have talked with my mom numerous times because she will do a few things. She will watch BD but not SS but will also watch our son that we have together. Early on in our relationship something happened between BD and SS and he ended up stomping on my daughter's private area. DH and I talked to SS about it and there were consequences. BD is also close to my mom who she told and ever since then she has been distant and has wanted little to nothing to do with SS. Add to that that he has behavior problems that have been a strain on our household and it probably doesn't help the situation. I love SS and know and understand that he has been through some things and can be a reason why he acts the way he does and because of this I have tried to reason but my mom won't listen.
How is it for you? Should I not expect my mom to automatically take on that step parent role when she never asked for it or are her reasons and actions valid? She will speak to him and be cordial, but that is about it.