SD10 and Cell Phone
Last year for SD9 birthday, BM got her a cellphone. Did not discuss with DH. He found out when she texted SD during our week and said "look what just came in the mail!"
BM does not do screen time or monitor apps on her phone.
DH totally disagrees and thinks SD shouldn't be on TikTok. He found some inappropriate videos of her on there. Cussing along with songs. She used explicit versions and not the clean version. Also, her profile is Public. DH let BM know he didin't think it was appropriate for 1, her to be on there and 2. making those kinds of videos. BM responded that she just wants her daughter "to be herself, whatever that may be"
Same week... when SD was at BMs, she texted me from her phone. BM flipped out saying it "distracts SD from her custody time" and that she forbid her from calling or texting me.
After the whole TikTok and dictating who she can/can't call, DH told her the phone was not allowed at our house. Period. If she allows her on TikTok, so be it, but it won't be at our house. BM controls what family members she can and can't call? Then it's not coming over.
Anyone have similar situations? Are your SK controlled by who they can talk to and when (If they're a preteen). Do they have phones that go back and forth with them? Any tips/advice?