Step Kids acting out with us but Not with Bio mom?????
Title pretty much sums it up. My step sons are 10 and 8 years old this month, they have always been destructive in nature, especially the oldest. The first time they came to my house they stole a steak knife and stabbed holes in my trampoline. We have been married for 2 years this July. I am a no nonsense type of parent. all 3 of my kids ages, 7, 4, and 3 are pretty well behaved. sure they make messes and break rules etc. but overall they do pretty well with following rules. The boys dont. No matter what punishment we use from spanking to time outs to grounding to taking things away and anything else you can think of, it just doesnt get through their heads. We have had complaints from the HOA because they are vandalizing neighbors houses they steal candy and food and drinks and its now escalated to stealing from my wallet... again this is mostly the oldest, the 8 year old just goes along with it which isnt much better, but at least he will fess up when confronted. the 10 year old lies through his teeth about everything.
Anyway, so heres where it gets weird... when they are at their bio moms house these issues dont exist according to her. She says they are perfect angels 90% of the time, so what gives?? We arent spoiling them or letting them get away with it. punishments keep getting harder on them and still no improvement. So first off, WHY ARE THEY DOING THIS?!?! and secondly, HOW DO I MAKE IT STOP?!?! im losing my freakin mind!