My husband's attitude towards my son makes me want a divorce.
I have been with my husband for over 5 years, married for 3 years. We live with my 14 year old son, he has no kids of his own. My son's father is out of the picture. In the beginning of my relationship with my husband my son was 8, my husband would go places with us, taught my son to ride a bike, did normal family type activities and was kind to my son. Over time he has gotten more and more disrespectful towards my son. My son has bipolar and ADHD which can be difficult to deal with but he has been to counseling and takes meds. As my son has gotten older things have improved with his illness, but things continue to get worse between him and my husband. My husband makes no effort to do things with my son, he NEVER takes him anywhere and gets mad if I take him by myself. He never askes about his day, nothing. All he does is "bark" at my son whether its telling him to take the trash out, clean his room, whatever. When husband comes home from work he sits on the couch to watch tv, if my son comes around and wants to sit and watch too he tells him he cant because its not for kids ("off you go" is what he tells my son), mind you I have asked him to watch anything thats not appropriate for kids after my son goes to bed. So my son is constantly being told to go to his room and watch his own tv. I tell my husband all the time that I rather enjoy spending time with my son and like when he is out here with us. He complains that it is his tv and he worked all day and should be able to watch what he wants. This is just 1 example of how he treats my son. We cannot even sit at the table and have dinner without him nit picking on my son... you are drinking too much, why did you take such a big bite, move your plate, blah blah blah, I get so sick of it half the time I cannot even finish my dinner without some sort of argument because I have to tell him to quit picking on my son and just let him eat in peace. Every time my son tries to talk about something he is inturrupting him and telling him hes wrong, or telling him no before he can even finish what hes trying to say. My son is bigger now and I can see his frusterations growing, I am afarid he is going to blow one day and go after my husband. Last night my son wanted to ask me something, in his bedroom, who could blame the kid when my husband always says no or gets yelled at. Husband got mad and hasn't spoken to either of us since. I could go on and on about how downright mean he can be towards my son. Last week my son came to me and said "mom I wish we didn't have to live with dad anymore, he is always mean to me". Hearing my son say this makes me want to leave my husband. We do love each other but I am feeling like that is not enough anymore. I need to do right by my son and make sure he is not being verbally abused. I am in a bad situation because I am not working due to health problems and I feel if I left my husband now maybe I would be making things worse for my son. I am venting, looking for answers, trying to see if anyone is in the same situation or has been in it before.