Holidays with grandparents ... HELP!
First time posting ... looking for some advice please ...
Myself and my partner have been together 2 years - we have 2 children each (both boy and a girl) and they are all around the same age. We have had regular holidays together and spend most free time as a family of 6.
my two children have previously been used to having more one on one time with me and their grandparents and Aunty / cousins.
They have recently asked me if they can have "a normal holiday with just their grandparents and Aunty and me without the step-siblings" They do get on great with their step siblings but when we are altogether my attention is divided between the 4 of them and I do end up being pulled in all directions to try and keep everyone happy. My children miss having my attention to themselves. They understand that normal family holidays moving forward would always be the 6 of us - but I've recently looked at going away for a couple of nights with just my 2 and just with my parents and sister and her 2 2 children. My parents asked if we could just include their grandchildren on this occasion so they can give them lots of time etc... but unfortunately my partner feels hurt that his children can't be included in this weekend and has decided not to go either .
I am feeling extremely torn - I want to give my children their wish of having a holiday to themselves with their immediate family and myself to enjoy that time with my parents and sister and put all my focus on my kids. But The last thing I want to do is upset my partner
... I'm not sure if there is a right or wrong answer but would really appreciate some feedback / thoughts. Should blended families have separate holidays?
I have suggested that we also take his children away on their own so they can appreciate having full attention etc but he is not convinced and thinks we should now do things as a family of 6.
Aaaah so stressful x