So much & so hard to explain. My 2 SD's (21 & 15) barely visit us. When there is $ involved we hear from them. Or when the 21yr old has a fight with her mother or boyfriend then she comes to live with us until she can't live by our rules then she leaves. Shes been back forth for almost 10yrs.
On Saturday they both decide to visit. I'm sure that they wouldnt have even come if their Dad hadnt sent them $ a few wks ago & that the 15yr old needed $500 asap. One thing, I have no prob with my husband giving them $ . I do wish that he would give it to their mother & not them because I do have a prob with him depositing $1000 into a 15yr olds bank acct because Im pretty sure that they dont even tell their mother when they receive it. Anyway, thats not my big problem. I have 2 bio children (18 daughter & 13 son) that live with us. My daughter had a friend over on Saturday that she hasnt seen for awhile because we recently moved & my nephew was over as well.. They had plans on Saturday to go rollerskating. When they're were leaving my husband freaks out on my daughter because they were leaving while "his kids" are visiting. She explained to him that they had made the plans before she knew that they were coming. He basically freaked out on her. I told them to just stay home. Obviously everyone was upset. My husband then prepared dinner for "his kids" & called them downstairs to eat. An hour or so later my daughter, her friend, my son & nephew were hungry. They had planed on eating while they were out. Anyway, there was nothing left for them to eat & there was no food left to prepare something for them. I had to borrow $ to go & pick up something for them AFTER "his kids" left to go home. BTW they only stayed for about 2hrs because the youngest realized that she wasn't getting any $ and she suddenly had to leave. My husband asked me why they stayed home & I told him that he made them feel guilty for leaving. I told him that he shouldnt have done that to them because they never would have made plans if they knew that his kids were coming over. He told me that he has every right to speak his mind. To a 18 year old REALLY? We've barely spoken since then except when he wanted sex on Sunday morning. Seriously!!! WTF does he really think that I would want to do that after he disrespected my daughter & son?
Cut to this morning...7AM minus 20Celsius. He called me because he's having a prob with the bank. I told him that I cant open the garage door to get the garbage out. He told me to go & wake up my daughter & make her come & help me. That he's sick & tired of us taking advantage of him & what is he supposed to do, leave work to come & do it. I told him that he could have taken out the garbage before he left. Oh man, he went off on me! He's sick & tired of us taking advantage of him. Really? He said that we take advantage of him & his kids & why would I make plans for "my kids" when his were over. Once again I told him that no one knew that they were coming. He still just freaked out & started swearing at me. My heart breaks for my daughter because her bio Dad wants nothing to do with her & its like my my husband treats her like an outsider when ever he feels like & he would rather treat his daughters like princesses even when they are the ones disrespecting him. Added info, I we also have a 6yr daughter & 3yr son together that live with us. I just dont know what to do. I wish that I could leave. Honestly, I have no way of supporting all of us on my own. I have to do something. HELP!!!