EX's with EX's.... and Kids involved..... HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ok so my ex husband decided to date my boyfriend's soon to be ex wife.... Me and my boyfriend live together now, and after 5 weeks of knowing each other my ex decided to move in with my boyfriends ex... Pretty screwy huh? Well they have two children together ages 9 and 7... me and my ex have a 5 year old so together that is 3 children..ahh!~ Anyways I dont know what my ex is thinking this woman has some serious issues in which her children were taken away into state custody because of it but the state of mass decided to give them back to her.... anways back to topic so we have his children every other weekend and the weekends that we dont have them they have my son... The children have some issues as well... the 9 yr old hits my 5 yr old son, they use bad language, they are just plain rude, and put my son down all the time.... When getting into my relationship with my boyfriend who ive known for 10yrs i never thought it would be this hard... The children wake up at 4am and decide to wake my son up who doesnt wake up until around 9... their father "feels bad" and is constatnly "boys relax, boys thats not nice" but there are no concenquences.. in which my son doesn something he either gets something taken away or goes to his room... My boyfriend is constantly talking about "his boys" and never makes my son one of "his boys" ... i think hes afraid that if he does that than my ex will start acting that way towards "his kids" and he doesnt like it.... both boys having eating disorders in which they are afriad to try new foods but how are we to instill new things on them when we only have them every other weekend? I mean one son will ONLY eat.. chef boy r dee spagetti and meatballs, pizza, hot dogs and chicken nuggets.. thats it... nothing else at all... oh wait and ceral in the morning.. nothing else though not chips, not cake, no veggies, NOTHING.... the other son will ONLY eat chicken nuggets, pizza and mac and cheese, and ramen noodles.... thats it!!!! my son will eat whatever i make its something ive done since day 1... but when i make dinner i have to make 3 diff dinners... and its not fair for evan becuase i do make him eat what I cook and i dont give them the choice, i told my boyfriend well if they dont like it they can have peanut butter and jelly.... he thinks its too harsh..... AHHHHHHH help me... i almost want to leave on the weekends!!!! than my poor son has to deal with it every single weekend because when he goes to his dads they are there too... We mentioned swapping weekends the weekends that we have the boys they take mine.... and vice versa but his ex says "oh i need a weekend to myself" wake up lady you are a mother and dated a guy with a son....I have to deal with it so do you!!!!!!! ugh!!!! help!!!!!