Countdown (Cont. Pt 4)
still haven't told him...
Yesterday the dude decides to randomly invite his sister in law over (despite me telling him I did not like his family popping up without advanced notice). I was triggered and annoyed but I didn't say much because I know I'm not dealing with that sh*t anymore in my own space.
What burns me up is I eavesdropped on his phone convo with her before she arrived and she was like "where are your kids?" I wanted to snatch the phone and be like "look b*tch you know good and damn well those kids are with their mother during the week (as most divorced parents do)...which is exactly where they belong and if you're bothered by it then open your home up every weekend and let the conniving breeder drop them with YOU!!!"
Dude offered to pay for my dinner last night (I paid him back) but I get creeped out by how he only offers for me (as if I don't have kid and as if he didn't put any groceries in the fridge).
The part that irks me is all through this relationship he forced his kids on me and tried to make me into their mother (they have a capable mother already) but with less rights and no child support all while he was a shitty step father.
He constantly make comments about how he'd do anything for "his blood" or "his kids" and didn't want his kids to grow up fatherless.
My child has a deadbeat dad. So he really didn't care about kids growing up fatherless he just cared about his biological kids growing up fatherless.
And he refused to step up. And when I called out his unsavory behavior he rationalized it by saying "i never see your daughter".
So because she is an honor student who uses her time to study, an elite athlete who uses her time to craft her skill, a young philanthropist who gives back to her community, a responsible person who works a job...all which demand her time - so since she isn't a clingy bump on a log then he's like "out of sight out of mind"
I assume taking care of another man's child intimidated him. Or maybe because she's 18 he assumed she's an "adult" who can fend/provide for herself despite the fact she's still in high school.
Or maybe he's just a selfish asshole
All while he expected me to use my resources as a single mother with no child support to use my limited resources take care of his kids better than their own mother
The blantant hipocracy.
And his expectation is even worse considering he selfishly wanted 3 parents for his bumps on logs while my daughter has to fend for herself. Technically she is way more independent and successful than his kids will ever be at that age but she's still a young female with only one parent.
If he had stepped up more as a step father (and as a partner) I probably wouldn't have disengaged so hard from his kids
Anyways just random ramblings of me reminding myself that he is not capable of providing what I need.