Sick of deadbeat mother!
I'm new to this site and reading some of these posts made me feel less of a monster lol. I'm 38, no bio kids, never wanted any...my life plans were becoming successful, buying my dream home, car and probably 100 cats. I met my current husband 4 years ago and he was recently divorced (twice) and had custody of his daughter (then 12) from his first marriage. At that time his D would go with her BM 50% of the time. She is a lovely kid and I didn't loathe when she came with us for the week but things turned sour once we moved in together I live in a big city with my own condo, career, family and friends He lived 3 hours away in a small remote town. We got engaged and it was time to decide who would move. I did NOT want to move to where he was but his argument was "I dont want to take my D away from her BM" so I requested a transfer and go it. I moved to his town and we bought our dream home with all the luxuries in life. I've never lived with a man, never engaged, super independent and successful. This was a HUGE life changing event. Especially since I moved away from everything I loved. About a year into us living together his D would spend less and less time with her BM saying her BMs bf was a bad influence and generally a loser. Her BM moved out and into a tiny shitty little house and things went south fast. My SD basically never wanted to be there since she didnt have what we had, like fast internet Spoiled typical teenager. Last December SD says she cut her BM out of her life and does not want to see her ever again. Great, this means living with us 24/7. This has put a MAJOR strain on my marriage and we literally just tied the knot a month ago. I can't put into words the hatred I have for BM. She lost custody of my SD and also a son who lives with his dad in another city. I constantly feel angry, irritable and cranky. She is a good kid (16yo) but shes a typical teenager, lazy, irresponsible and just plain annoying to me She works 2 to 3 nights a week at the other side of town where her mom lives We drive back and forth every single time