I want MY TURN
Any bio kid free people who want kids out there but are "waiting" for reasons solely caused by your husband?
He had kids young and pays a lot in child support so I feel my life is shelved while he "figures his out." I don't think he sees it this way.
I dutifully stand beside him as we slowly dig out of the hole caused by him recklessly having 2 kids in his early 20's with his flighty, irresponsible girlfriend. I am tired of our lives revolving around his kids, his ex... his his his...
These kids are expensive and draining. By the time they age out, my fertility will be long gone.
My options seem to be:
1) Have a child while basically poor and "figure it out."
2) Divorce. Get on a dating website and try to eventually have a family with someone else.
3) Sperm Bank.
None of these choices appeal to me.
I feel so defeated and wish I had friends who could relate even just a little bit. Every friend I have gave birth the same year. It was like some kind of sick joke. To placate myself - I got a puppy.
I want my turn. I don't feel like pretending his 2 kids are enough for me. In my 20's I had patience. Now my patience has run out...
To echo a previous poster: Bio free stepparenting certainly is a unique hell.