I think it's one of those you had to be there things. I don't find it funny, cute but not funny.

If I read it on Facebook , I would think you the type whom has to post every little thing you, your kids or grand kids do.

Why are you ANGRY about SD and husband not finding the story funny? :?

Jam, I honestly think you are being too sensitive on this. Humor is often a very personal thing - what may be funny to one person (or a dozen) may not be to another. It's that simple.

I think you've taken a simple situation and turned it into fodder to make a point show how your DH doesn't support you, but always takes his DD side. It is a stretch, in this instance. I do understand how you may be feeling, but sometimes we need to step back and realize that not every word, look or action by skids is worth agonizing over.

You should not "be so angry" over something like this, as it's really insignificant in the greater scheme of things.

I think I understand why you are angry, it seems mostly at dh and that's understandable. I'm thinking that sd was mortified that the younger grandchild thought that her son was younger than himself. You know how people compare kids all the time? Well it's even worse amongst grandchildren. Well Johnny was speaking in sentences at 2 years old, Oh really? Suzy was speaking three languages at 2 years old.

No it is not funny to me, it is one of those 'guess you had to be there' type of things. However if someone had taken my child to a movie I would smile and say something like "I'm so glad they had a good time together, thanks for taking them" or something along those lines. And your dh could have said something similar. nothing there that warrants a 'deer in the headlights' look

Holy cow…how did this blog into people thinking the OP post too much on facebook….is mad because people don’t think she is funny or she was asking for a fight….?

I feel that OP is not angry because they did not find the story funny about their kid. (which is weird IMHO that they did not even smile about it). I think she is more angry that DH basically put her down when he told her “maybe she needed to learn to tell a story better.” And weather that is true or not, he was extremely rude about it.

To OP…I would be a little miffed. Maybe not really angry but I would get over this quick and learn not to say anything about his kids that he may see as a put down to them. He feels you put them down so he put you down.

Honestly...I think your DHs response was funnier than the conversation between the two kids. The kids conversation was cute I guess, but I can see not laughing about it. I wouldn't have been offended by your DHs comment either, unless there was some really cruel tone of voice used or something, but then my DH and I poke fun at each other all the time.

Mountains out of molehills. This is nothing worth being mad over.

It's entirely possible your retelling of it was off. If you told me this story and you were cracking up about how funny it was, I would probably look at you with a deer in headlights look too... because I don't think it's funny. It's a little cute, but not funny.

Anyhow, to me the "learn to tell a better story" comment was likely his way of awkwardly trying to patch it up?

It seems to me that you are mad at your DH for saying something a little off or wrong, when apparently you did the same thing.... so.......

If you don't want to hear your dh defend his daughter, don't put him in that position. Your story was not THAT amusing. Your SD is 30. Get over it and ignore. This was not something worthy of a fight.

I don't think them not even smiling had anything to do with how you told the story so your DH's response was off base. He could have just shrugged it off instead of saying it was because of your storytelling.

Maybe he was upset that your GS4 was saying that his GS7 acts like a 2 year old and he took it out on you.

You and your DH had a laugh about it. Either he found it funny/cute originally or he was being polite.

THEN he says "maybe you need to learn how to better tell a story"? A$$hat.

I thought the story was pretty adorable! Is it possible that your SD and H didn't even smile because they are jealous of how well you get on with their son? That seems to be the case in my house. I'm good enough to watch the SGC but my SD would have a meltdown if they seemed to prefer being at my house having fun as opposed to being at their own home. And my DH would do the same thing yours did. These men and their dramatic daughters drive me nuts!

I think in Stepland we have a tendency to overthink and analyze every little nuance to death, especially if we're in a less than ideal situation.

IMO, sometimes the best we can do is disengage to a degree and remind ourselves that it is what it is as we consider the source.

No, it probably wasn't that funny but it didn't call for that rude of a reaction.

So many times we treat skids or BM like we would any other human being and it goes over like a fart in church.

It's not you, it's them.

Remember who they are and try to let it go.

SD30 and her dh likely have giants sticks up their butts, and your dh like all of ours will defend them no matter. Be glad you're not in the "Stick up the butt club."

this has nothing to do with the cute story and everything to do with how you feel about your DH not validating your feelings and sticking up for you in a way that you would like him to. I get it. I feel you, but try and not waste any of your energy on this. If his kid and her dh want to be dry dicks let them, don't let it ruin your day or get your goat. you just have to find it in your heart to accept that your DH makes excuses for his kids behavior.

Jam, your step family is much like mine. There's so much cognitive dissonance occurring, so many mixed signals flying, that it's hard to discern what's real and what's pretense.

You've blogged about other instances with your skids where things seem to be okay, and then the skids did or said something shi!!y. There's a lot of pretense going on, and it's easy to take things at face value and be lulled into thinking all is well.

To be blunt, I don't think your skids like you or what you represent one bit. And their relationship with their father seems to be one mostly of convenience with little in the way of emotional attatchment. They all seem resentful and entitled, which could stem from the divorce or PAS. At any rate, you seem to be where I was, caught in a dynamic where everyone is expected to paste on a smile and play Happy Family while clearly something else entirely is going on just below the surface. Youre a kindly, well-adjusted woman trying to navigate where dysfunction has been present for a very long time. You did something nice for your SD and her spouse, and in return they behaved passive aggressively towards you. Do you get the significance of that? In concert, without prior planning, they were both rude to you. That's their default setting. And then your H took their part. Again, that's his default setting.

So, you slipped up, let your guard down, and got slapped. We've all done this, and it says far more about their character than yours. Time to refocus on building a big brick wall between you, your skids, and their interactions with your H.

It's like when SD and my DH get together, doesn't matter who's present, they have to form their bond and bully. They only do this, when there are other people around. If it is just the two of them, they just gaze at each other, like they have a private joke.

It's a narcissist game that will never end in my case. I am totally disengaged and just don't care any more. When DH and I are away from SD, all is well. So SD is not allowed to come near me; I mean not even near me.

There's no longer family events, where I am civil; I just don't go to the family events. I do wish I was a mouse in the corner, because I don't believe they have a good time, without someone to bully.

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