Need help from my Steptalk friends re wedding!!!
Hi everyone - so...partner and I have been discussing getting married for the past 6 months or so. We have been together now for 6 years. Problem is, everytime it comes up, we can't decide on how we would actually do it due to the dynamics in our family. I have 2 kids who have been very supportive of our relationship, however as mentioned, we have had many issues with his adult kids. I have no family here as I moved to another country for my first marriage. Regardless of the issues, if we had a smallish wedding, they would probably all come along, although it would feel awkward.
We are deciding between a very small wedding (probably family only) or eloping. If family only, it would either be our 4 kids (plus his kids' partners) or also include his 2 brothers and their wives (who also haven't been that supportive). In the last scenario, I would be outnumbered.
Or, we were thinking of a destination wedding/honeymoon, perhaps in Tahiti. Just the two of us. We are leaning towards this idea, but worry that my kids may feel hurt about not being invited. It is a hard decision but we also don't want any drama inviting his kids if they aren't going to be supportive. We don't want any tears on the day, unless they are tears of joy!
So, a few questions:
1. Can a small wedding with family who aren't exactly supportive work?
2. Has anyone eloped and if yes, do you recommend it?
3. If you could do it again, what would you do differently? (and please don't say choose another partner, LOL!)
Appreciate your help!!