Haven't posted in a few weeks as I have been SO busy with work which has been a great distraction. Things were actually going along really smoothly with SO. But now, the next event of the year, his birthday. SO said he was going to make some changes this year re SK's and the exclusion thing. He said he was also going to change things and not put in 100% effort while they put in 0% effort. None of which has occurred. We talked yesterday about him inviting his kids down here for his birthday. SD phoned SO and SO mentioned the idea of them coming over, and she said no, she wasn't coming over and could daddy go there instead. So he said yes and then called me to tell me he was doing his birthday tonight with his kids, and no I wasn't invited.
I'm just sick of this crap. SO has no backbone when it comes to Skids. He said he didn't want to upset them by saying no. So the alternative is to say yes to excluding me all the time? I don't really care if he goes up there for his birthday but it's just the way it is always around me being asked not to come that is really annoying. I swear this is the only issue between us but when it rears its ugly head, it's just plain ugly! I hate this so much and told SO I don't know if I want to do this anymore. He said "I can't give you what you want" so he isn't even trying to make it better.
So he is up there now celebrating his birthday and said we could celebrate another day. Oh yes right, like I really want to celebrate his birthday now!
I know the solution here is to disengage and just let them live their merry life without me, but my issue is when I am told not to come places and SO agrees to that, that is just not okay with me.