No way in hell I could go on a vacation with my adult skids. I would cry myself to sleep each night.

I wouldn't go on a vacation with my own kids set aside step-kids. When she announced that she had with a step that's been nothing but trouble I thought she was insane.

Hell to the NO

Nooooooooooooooooo! It's bad enough with a minor skid.

LOL after all the griping I've done about SD29, I can't imagine why I'd want to purposely pay money to spend time with her. Not only would I not go on "vacation" with skids, I don't think DH would want to, either. We value our vacation time too much to deliberately put ourselves in such a situation.

For years we went on several vacations with SD and a friend or her husband, and paid for everything. The first vacation we took with SD she was so nasty that even DH's family commented about it. While driving, I sat in the front seat. SD would pull on my seat belt in the back so it hurt me. SD liked to walk with DH on the sidewalk ahead of me, leaving me behind, treating me like I was invisible or just being obnoxious. One time, after paying for their hotel, and transportation and most of the meals, we even waited them out in a restaurant - we finally picked up the tab and the tip. Whether we visited them or they visited us, we paid for everything. I felt very unwelcome even in my own home, SD giving me stink eye, rolling eyes, blowing up like a puffer fish, verbally putting me down, making me invisible, having mumbled sideline conversations with her husband. The first thing we did when we did we would arrive at her house was to go to the store because SD never had anything in her cupboards to feed us. Of course, we paid. When they came to our house she would make sarcastic remarks about me and my cooking, would not pick up after herself, even to place her dish in the sink. One time I asked if she could pick up a cube of butter at the store, and she became enraged.

Do I still do this? Hell no! Just thinking about it makes me thank my lucky stars she is no longer allowed in my home.

DH tries, and SD's invite, try to initiate "trips" but they all lack the "trip planning" gene. Seriously delayed on how to pull it off. THIS is my strength. What to do...? I play dumb and do not remind or bring it up. Then I go plan a trip that is at a bad time for anyone to join and play the sympathy card with them "sorry that doesn't work our for you, SD...maybe next time". Soooo bad but hey, if you have it use it.

Sides, when ever they are anywhere near us DH pays for all stuff, restaraunt bills, groceries, you name it. So sick of the adult entitlement mentality where they see it as a given that when they come along, we pay for everyone. Now one SD wants us to take SGB camping? Seriously? I did my time camping with diapers with my own. Now it is their turn...

Yep, I would do it. In fact we have been doing it for 20 years since SS-22 was a toddler.

But, he was raised in our home and visited Sperm Land 3x per year (5wks summer, 1wk, winter, 1wk spring).

So, we were able to counter the toxic shallow and polluted end of his gene pool.

We have had a great time on the vacations we have taken. Not completely without drama but enjoyable.

My ex and I used to take his 5 sons with us on vacation. The older boys would bring their girl friends. We all had a great time, they were respectful, helped with things. We did however pay most of the time. After they were older and married, we would all go camping every year together, and they paid their own ways. On the other hand, my current SO's kids, I would never go on vacation with them. They are enabled spoiled brats, and he caters to them. What enjoyment would that be for me. One time he mentioned we all go to Hawaii together, including my daughter. I didn't say a word, as much as I would love to go and love for my daughter to see Hawaii, I would not put myself or her through that. His girls are so rude to my daughter, that they have only been at the same place a handful of times. I do things with my daughter, dinners, etc, weekends, and my SO does stuff with the 2 of us, dinners, pool, etc. I do things with his daughters, dinners, and that is how we manage it. But as far as going on a vacation with them..no thank you!

I paid my own money for a beach vacation once after my steps were adults. At this time I thought we were getting along okay or I never would have suggested that they come. . They complained about the sleeping arrangements because they felt my bios should have to give up their space because the adult steps thought it was better. No one offered any help cooking or cleaning and I also ended up babysitting the step grands as well as my two minor children. It was no vacation for me and I vowed not to repeat that mistake again. They hinted and ranted when they were not included on future trips but I just ignored it. Considering the horrible things the two of them called me a few years later and the terrible temper tantrums we had to put up with, I can not imagine my ever asking them again because i would know that although they may pretend and smile to my face if it means a free vacation they still are never going to accept me. They just want the perks.