Is it hopeless?
Every time I read through these threads and hear other people's stories (which are often very similar to mine, particularly about the spineless spouse who's at their kids' feet), there's a voice in my head that says "oh man, this stepmother (or stepfather) should just walk out of that bullsh*t situation because it will never change." And yet here I am, staying in mine. If the biological parents allow themselves to be walked all over, what's your take on it--in general, is it hopeless and should stepparents just cut their losses and leave, or is there some magic approach that actually seems to work to get the spouse to wise up and stop enabling maladaptive behaviours in their kids (and subsequently making chaos in the partner/stepparent's life)? Does anything work?