How do you say it?
How do you say to your husband, I just don't love you anymore and want a divorce? There's been no cheating or abuse or anything like that. I am just worn down from all the little things and all the stupid bullsh*t and I have hit a wall. I want to be alone. More than anything else in the whole wide world. I HATE being married and I want to scream until my voice breaks. For most of our marrige he was uninterested in being in a true partnership. Then a few months ago I told him I was unhappy and wanted a divorce. He begged me to stay and try. He changed and is falling all over himself now to be up my a$$ and do all the right things and it annoys the F*CK out of me. I lost respect for him and over time I have come to this point.
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omg your reply just made me
omg your reply just made me break down in tears. I am on that same path you were and I am a year into feeling this way. Please please tell me how you handled it the last time - did he break down again and how did you steel youself against it?
This is so hard.
Thank you Cactus, that helps
Thank you Cactus, that helps me a lot. I have a lot of similarities to your ex situation and I am glad you found the strength to end it and I hope I can find the same strength. **HUGS**
What a jerk for blatently signing up for Match.com just hours later!!! And knowing you would see it on the bill!! I'm seriously hating on men right now! LOL
Yes, I really really am. The
Yes, I really really am. The kind of exhausted that no amount of sleep can fix.
I read your blogs, and that
I read your blogs, and that would upset me too.
I agree I think I need to say
I agree I think I need to say it to his face when I do it. I feel like I owe him at least that.
I felt that way with my ex
I felt that way with my ex husband. I always just saw him as an obstacle in my life, everything I tried to do he always got in the way. At that time I was young married and had 2 kids and think to myself "this is going to be my life, for the rest of my life" ? He was a shitty father, lazy, and I had zero respect for him. I would drive home for work and dread walking through the door, when I got home I would take my kids to my room and hang out in there or take them and leave. I was seriously depressed and hated every second being with him. When I would go to sleep I would cringe if any part of his body touched mine. I tried to leave once, he begged me to stay and joined the military and figured time apart would make it better, as soon as he left and was leaving for a year I felt relieved and a month after he left I told him I wanted a divorce and I was done.
You have to tell him and let it be known, there is nothing he can do to change his ways.
Yes! I always try to be in a
Yes! I always try to be in a different room than him. I feel trapped. This is no way to live. And I know he feels me pulling away.
I hope your DH keeps it
I hope your DH keeps it together for you! You seem very strong and he would be an idiot to lose you.
Yes Azure I know exactly how
Yes Azure I know exactly how you feel. I told my ex H I didn't love him and felt it was selfish for us to stay together and be miserable when he could go out and find someone who would love him as much and he loved them. It wasn't just one or two things that made me feel that way, it was event after event where I just could NOT do it, I would never have done anything that left my kids without a mother and they were the only thing holding me together.
I didn't shed one tear when we divorced, I felt a sigh of relief. My advice, separate for now, try it for a few months apart and see how you both feel without being in each others lives. Depending on how you feel during that time, will give you your answer.
Thank you, that's good advice
Thank you, that's good advice about separating.
True that could happen, but
True that could happen, but that gets old really fast some times. If you get divorced, thats definitely means he's single and free to have fun.