good morning all. Thanksgiving was a small event with only my son stopping over as alll the kids scattered across the country. He has autism and is very dark and depressed. Never a good relationship with my husband. So my husband and I in the kitchen cooking and he and I butt heads there sometimes. Nothing serious just me telling him to stay out of the kitchen and disagreeing over Times food done. So all of a sudden he gets up from the couch and says he is leaving because he is upset how nasty my husband is to me. We are astounded and speechless. He leaves and texts me that he is sorry but felt it was better than arguing.
The next day we decide my husband should text him an apology of some sort. Just to cool things down. He texts a nice note and within a second is texted back F$&@ off! I am appalled.
So whst to do. He is 26 very isolated lives at his father’s house and my ex is never around. He is mentally ill. One of my traditions is to send a gift card to a chain restaurant to all the kids steps included. I buy the cards cybermonday. If I didn’t think he could find out I excluded him I would. But do I reward bad behavior? Do I have him over for a meal when DH not here? Do I even invite him for Christmas?