Disgusting behavior from DH's daughter once again
In DH's family, their tradition has always been that a family birthday dinner is held when it's someone's birthday. Generally the birthday dinner is held over a weekend, so if the family member's actual birthday doesn't fall on the weekend then everyone in the family gives them a call and wishes them Happy Birthday on the actual day
When DH and I became an item MIL and FIL included me in these traditions. Always held a birthday dinner, which was for DH's eldest daughter and myself as our birthday's are just a few days apart - one more thing I bet she just LOVES about me - NOT) and they would also call me on my birthday.
I made a point to do the same, always phoned MIL, FIL, DH's sister and his daughters on their birthdays.
DH's eldest daughter when going through her 'I like Disillusioned' years would participate and once or twice way back phoned me on my birthday. That turned into a text on my birthday and then when she was back into her 'I despise Disillusioned' years stopped acknowledging me altogether for my birthdays, although everyone else in DH's family will call (except for DH's sister she will call him but at least sends a text message to me - her way of letting me know DH is her family and I am not nearly as important. Whatever. At least she sends a text)
DH's eldest daughter ignores me on these occasions although she knows that it isn't what everyone else in the family does because quite simply she doesn't consider me family and loves to rub it in my face. Fine
Yesterday DH's eldest daughter called him on his birthday....the last few years when she really was going through the whole 'I can't stand Disillusioned and treat my dad badly too' phase, DH might get a text from her. I was the only one in 'the family' to be treated as a non-family piece of crap by her. Anyway, so she calls DH and actually wishes him happy birthday live. And she has SGS sing a birthday song to him, and she has SSIL wish him happy birthday too
Now, I'm glad for my DH they finally acknowledged him the way they should. But I was more irked than ever at her double-standards. After all the years and all her crap including the time she lived with us full-time and would have nothing to do BM. Grrrrrr!
Even worse DH's eldest made sure to phone around in the evening. She doesn't work so is at home all day and could call DH anytime. But she made sure to do this when she knew we would most likely be out for dinner for his birthday which we were, it's like she was making sure to rub in my face what she refuses to do for me - the SM, ooops I mean DH's wife as she refers to me - who has been there as much or more than her own father over the years