Adult Step Kids
This is my 2nd marriage. He has 2 kids, D-21, S-18, Me S-27, S-24, D-19.
We have been married for 4.3 years now. My SD disrespects me every chance she gets. SS follows when SD is around but is nice when by himself. My kids are respectful cuz I wouldn't tolerate anything else. My kids don't really associate with his cuz of how they act.
My husband feels guilty for everything that happens with his kids and spoils them. They used to yell and scream at him when they didn't get their way. He has come a long way being married to me. I never would have allowed my kids to disrespect, manipulate, bad mouth, yell, the way they do. The SD posts online what a F**king a$$... her father is and so forth. Very upsetting. My SS made 3 sandwich and my husband said cool thanks and the SS went through the roof. They say they were never taught to share. I said teachers, scout leader and coaches taught even when you say your parents didn't, which I find very hard, they told me their parents are selfish themselves. I always support my husband in front of the kids, even if I believe he is wrong. I wait until we are out of the house and discuss cuz his kids listen to everything even in our bedroom.
This was my last straw....i had a surprise 50th for my husband. I asked the SD and SS not to drink, which they did, and both got drunk. The GF kept getting them drinks, I couldn't watch them all night, just not possible. SD threw up in the bathroom and the manager proceeded to chew me out. I then went to talk to them again and they laughed. I asked the SD not to sleep together with her GF in my house. They proceeded to do anyways. Needless to say my husband was drunk and so help. I don't drink, never have. SD was also asked not to slow dance with her GF cuz I invited clients, which she did. I didn't want to lose any clients if they didn't like my SD choices.
The morning after all heck broke out in my home. SD yelled at me saying I disrespected her. Husband didn't do much. This was 1/4/2020 and things between us haven't been the same. He says he's talked to them but I feel like nothing was done. He talks to them like they did nothing wrong, still spoils them I feel like his not being respectful of me and our marriage and protecting me as he should. To compound this issue my husband go so drunk he was touching and kissing on another woman that I had to break up. He says I was drunk, I didn't know what I was doing. This is the 2nd time something simlar has happened.
I feel like it's me, against them all the time. SD never treats me with respect unless it's in front of her dad.
I feel betrayed and not sure what to think or do.