Adult pregnant stepdaughter is ruining my marriage
My husbands daughter is 18 and pregnant. She hates me and I hate her.
It didn't start out that way..it started out pretty good when she was not stuck up my husbands butt and had a life of her own, but that is a whole other story. I would also like to mention that he is very much stuck up hers also. It repulses me.
She moved in with us when she got pregnant and at first we got along well.
My husband has a sick idea of what parenting is all about and their relationship makes me ill.
He babies her like she is a 5 year old, and when she throws a tantrum, she gets whatever she wants. He does her laundry, orders for her at restaurants, jumps at any chance he can get to serve her. In his defense, he has gotten better, but the sickness is still there.
She won't answer his calls because she didn't get her way, and he freaks out! He will text and calling repeatedly until she answers and then he will give in and give her whatever it was she was mad about or what she wanted. Or if he had "disciplined" (yeah right...joke) her, he apologizes profusely and then takes her shopping or something to make it up to her.
She trash talks me behind my back and on social networking sites, and he says nothing. She doesnt follow the same rules of the house that my kids have to follow. She is a disrespectful witch and tries to push my buttons and it is causing a major rift between my husband and I, which is her ultimate goal.
All I want is an apology and some respect and I get neither.
He doesnt make her, so why would she? It just gets worse and worse.
They text and call eachother constantly and I feel like I am the stepchild and she is the wife.
He has gone to her with our problems before, which honestly, our only problem is her. We get along great otherwise.
I feel like when she is around I don't exist. When him and I are out together the @*&%ing phone is ALWAYS within his reach so he can be in CONSTANT contact with his little princess. But somehow when they are together, he doesn't have his phone to be in contact with me...????? hmmmmm
I am not sure whether it would be best for me to stay in the marriage or run for the hills. He used to pay a lot of attention to my kids, until she threw a fit and you guessed it, she got her way....AGAIN.
Does anybone have any advice for me before I check myself into an insane asylum or end my marriage? Do they (DH) ever change or "get it" and finally see that they are not doing their daughters any favors by enabling them and not making them have consequences for their actions? They turn them into self centered, self absorbed witches who can't do anything for themselves. I think he is ruining any potential chance she would have for a normal relationship. I don't know what man would find that desirable in a woman but maybe I am wrong.
Help! I just want to stop feeling jealous of her and I want my marriage to be like it was before she got pregnant and he was actually allowed to pay myself and my kids attention!! Am I wrong in feeling this way? I just can't help it