18 years, and I am still here....WHY???
I have been married to my husband for 11 years, been together for a total of 18. His kids were 3 and 6 when we met. I do not have any children of my own. (Another subject for another day!)
We have had an up and down relationship for the entire time we have been together. I feel guilty saying this, but 90% of the issues stem from his now 25 year old daughter.
His daughter moved to another state in March of this year. I was on top of the world. I found love with my husband again. I felt 100% less stress, I stopped taking anxiety and sleeping pills. OMG...I can't explain the feeling!
Well....as you guessed, she is back. :O
When I found out that she was coming back, I had a VERY long talk with my husband. It came down to me telling him that her being here is not good for me. He promised that things would be different this time. (Where have I heard this before?? :? )
Anyhow, she has now been back for 5 weeks. She still has no job (even though we purchased a beater car for her so she could get one.), has no friends, sleeps 'til 11:00 and eats me out of house and home. By the way...she is my husband's "other wife". (He hates that term, but it is SO true!)
I can't take this anymore. I don't know how to talk to him so that he hears me. I can't have a free-loader under my roof, but he doesn't seem to have a problem with it. He is so blind to the fact that his daughter is 25, not 15!
Can anybody out there give me some tips on things you have done/said to your significant other to make you feel heard? I love him dearly, but can't stand this anymore. I am so close to filing for divorce.
It's great finding this site. Years of feeling alone and crazy are slowly fading away as I read each of your posts.