So as part of our agreement, my DH and I must inform his ex (SS5's BM) when a doctor's visit approaches. Today, I did just that--I called and left a message on BM's voicemail.
---->BM lost custody two years ago due to child abuse, neglect, and endangerment, along with several drug charges.
She responded to my voicemail by text saying, "I got your message and would like to come to the doctor as well. Let me know if that's alright."
My first response is HELL NO, but I can't decide what the appropriate response. It will be me, not DH taking SS5 to the doc and I'm worried about the confusion of SS5 between two mother figures and her constant vying for SS5's attention. If I don't let her come, I'm worries she will write the court and say we're not upholding our end of the deal. Cause she's all-around unpleasant and vindictive.
So, what should we say?