Our state has job corp which we proposed to him a while back and he informed us he was not doing that. See any work involved equals a big no from him. I have no idea how to file with family court for him being a person in need of suppervision?

Yesterday, I went on Facebook and discovered that 2 prominent women in my small small rual community were all over FB talking about what happened. I know who these women are but we are not friends and I have never spoken to them ever. My lovely SS is a huge liar and trash talker and he literally spent 4 hours talking to/ complaining to DSS about us. He is not abused he is a spoiled brat who when does not get his way throws huge fits like a small child. He is mentally disabled and abusive to us. He does not do a single thing to help out at home and the fights are growing because he won't do anything we ask. All he has to do is clean his room and do homework and he has turned that into an opportunity to thorw tantrums for attention. My town population is about 300 people and he just destroyed me in the community on FB these 2 women were literally posting our private business on their walls. They named themselves the SS 15 guardians on FB without once talking to my DH who went over to their places when we "Didn't know where he was" and they sat there and lied to his face that the SS was not there and my DH was crying too. This occured over 2 days and these women have big nice homes and are rich basically and we aren't we live in a tiny apartment. Theese 2 women were posting pics of these 3 boys just having a gay old time over the 2 days. They had a party and posted pics of them smiling and happy at a bonfire and at a resteraunt and SS was loving it up attention and the rich lavish lifestyle he wants whist trashing DH and stepmom just because we asked him to clean his pigpen room and I yelled at him. Oh that's apparently ABUSE ABUSE my SM yelled at me, ABUSE!! My DH even records his tantrums over having to clean his room. All we have to do is ask him to clean his room and he starts crying, rocking back and forth, talking to hisself, tearing his drapes off of the wall. I mean you would not beleive how mental he is. I don't even know. I am a very private shy reserved person and I would have never put my personal business on my towns FB website and I feel totally violated by these 2 women and my SS. I don't even want to go outside because I am so embarrased and everyone knows and is judging me. I know you all are going to go get out you don't have to put up with this. I love my DH and he told me it is not me that SS would do this to whoever I am with that is not his Bio mom. DH does not want him back either but it looks like we have no choice. The bio mom disowned him last time they talked on the phone so she is not an option to take him and the grandparents have been adament that he is not staying with them but if you can beleive this these 2 women are now telling the grandparents to return him to them!?