I am sorry that your relationship ended like that but at least you have a definite ending and there is no "what if" back and forth.  You have been given the gift of a loud and clear break-up from what sounds like a nightmare situation.  Lick your wounds for a bit and then count your blessings.

As far as the money goes, it sounds like you already blew quite a bit and got nothing in return.  Don't throw good money after bad.  You never agreed to pay even what you were pressured into paying while you were there, let alone "pay him back" for these surprise charges now that you have broken up  You owe him nothing.  Should you ever hear from his mother I would simply not reply and block the number.  Block him too while you are at it and move on with your life.  

You dodged a nuclear missile, darling. That "vacation" would have been the tip of Nightmare Iceberg had you wasted more years of your life with this unappealing bunch.

You don't owe any of them a damn penny.

After that fiasco, I would block him and his mother and surely wouldn't give them a dime. He sounds like a controlling nutjob - lucky you got out when you did!

Tell him to send you receipts for anything for you he paid for and you will happily cover it. No receipts, no money.

He's an uber ass! Be grateful you got away early.

What would they have paid had you not gone?  They would have had to cover the Uber and the rental themselves.  I would just ghost this guy and his mother.  Or if you’re still living there give him lip service, promise to pay to keep the peace, get all your stuff out then ghost him.

In your intro, you mentioned your partner was a woman and now a man? Not that it makes a bit of difference, I just like to get the full understanding.

Whichever it is, that doesnt make it hurt any less! Im sorry this happened to you, it sounds like you gave it your all and were rewarded with all the blame and expenses.

Please do not go back to this person, after they realize what an amaxizng partner you were to them - they will try to entice you back with all kinds of promises - dont give in!!!!! You deserve better than being treated like poo on the shoe.

newwtostepguy, I mean, tarynewtostep, this is the best thing that could have happened to you.

This is not the relationship for you.

I would not pay them a penny. 

And if you feel obligated then a 1/3 is too much, consider including rooming for children is expensive!

I would type up a bill, with the car, the uber, the food (in excess of yours), subtract the condo, and tell them you expect to be paid.    I mgiht add babysitting fees.

But I would have left the first day

Good riddance to that "family."  You dodged a bullet. 

Look up Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

You dodged a bullet.

Hon, you dodged the proverbial bullet.

NO family does every activity together 100% of the time. Sounds like your EX Significant Orifice was having a mantrum because things were not absolulely perfect for his pwecious poopsies and your no-longer-future-Monster-In-Law. Call the waaaaaaah-mbulance because STUFF HAPPENED. 

Chalk it up as a life lesson. You know what is NOT acceptable behavior. {{hugs}}

Please don’t rush back to him if you have a miss me moment. Take some time out. You have been treated in an appalling manner. 

I would like to add, though many people would disagree with me as ‘times have changed’... but when I was growing up holidays were an absolute luxury, we had to be grateful if we got to go one one, be polite, and the kids (us) had no influence on daily plans. My mum and stepfather managed to find a nice balance for keeping everyone happy, but one thing is for sure- if I had even attempted to back chat anyone or be ungrateful I never would have been invited on another holiday again. 

I think it’s terribly sad these days that kids expect all this, and then not only from their dads, they go with their mums, and then grandparents feel bad because parents aren’t together. And everything gets so complicated.....

getting out of this sick relashionship and not not marring him or having kids with him.

this forum is full of stories of how bad it can with SK you are free!! Enjoy it and don’t come back even if he cries and begs!!

Block them all, chalk it up to poor jugement on your behalf. This was a vacation for idiots kids that MIL paid for. Why would you have to pay for anything?  A decent partner wouldn't even ask., especially putting up with that circus. So much wrong it's not worth going into. Many on this site are here because they did the same thing. And are in similar, or worse circumstances. You don't have any kids, which is a big plus. Don't date people with kids, so much easier....or ones that are trying to get into your purse constantly.. Plus now is a good time to self evaluate yourself and make improvements, or lifestyle changes.  I guess I would look at it as a good opportunity, so you don't end up in another crazy relationship. If someone is making you feel bad about yourself, it's not YOU - it's them. That's when you immediately put them in the recycle bin. 

You are well shot of this controlling, mercenary, selfish man.  I would say he treats you like a servant, but then a servant doesn't have to pay for all their excruciatingly boring and tedious holiday experiences in company of SKIDs and inlaws.   

My guess is she considers her lover to be the man or a man now or possibly transitioning. Gender is fluid and complicated now so we should be sensitive to that.  Not that it matters anyways. Getting treated like poop is not ok regardless. We should all be supportive of one another and unbiased here instead or calling each other out. My thoughts are he/she is a petulant child and narcissist and who has never grown up. He/she is now passing that into their kids as that is why they act like spoiled brats. Mil enables this and that is why he/she is the way they are.

1) It seems like your SO doesn't actually like vacationing with his family and was directing some of his displeasure at you. 

2) For the money, I think you should tell them that you'll repay them once they provide receipts and assumptions around what you owe. 

Your SO sounds like an entitled brat and so do his kids. No one should be expected to raise someone else’s kids, and be treated with such disrespect. On top of that your financial expenses aren’t even covered. You deserve better. Being alone would be better. Don’t be afraid of that!

Tary, I'm confused. Aren't you in a same sex relationship?

Not that it matters, because your ex treated you very badly. Congratulations on your freedom!!!

of the fact that he lost his wallet/verbal punching bag dawns on him, he will try to hoover you back. Don't do it.

 What a great investment this trip has been for you.  Airfare,  a couple of Ubers and you learned that this guy is no man, no father, is a mama's boy, and an asshole of monumental proportions.  That is a cheap lesson at twice the price.

Why be upset about this epiphany and hearing with your own ears how shallow and polluted that entire gene pool is?  XBF and his bovine mother did you the greatest possible service by having their whine fest in a place that you could hear them spout their toxic verbal sputum.

Since this guy played the you owe him money card, go with his logic, build a spreadsheet of every penny you have expended related to he and his toxic crotch ejecta. Then bill him with penalties and interest.  Tell him he has 30 days to settle his account with you or you will take him to court to collect.  Hopefully he will stroke out over that.  Keep burying him in piled on epiphanies of his toxic lack of character and don't stop until he disappears from your life completely.  Collecting on what he owes is not the point.  Burrying him with clarity on how much of a POS he is, is the point.

You do not own he or even his mother a penny.  Remember, he is the one that sold this as a family trip.  As a family trip.... you owe nothing.  Now that you are broken up, thankfully, there will be no more "family" trips.  However, during the trip you were not broken up.  So he is shit out of luck on collecting on that.  It is another highlight of his lack of character that he was trying to pawn the cost of this "family trip" onto  you.  If he could not afford to take his spawn on the trip, he had no business taking the trip at all.  His attempt to pawn the costs of it onto you tells me yet more about how big of a POS this guy is.

IMHO of course.

Good luck and celebrate your new found freedom from that tragically flawed shallow and polluted gene pool.  Mama, her baby boy, and his toxic spawn all included.

What a bunch of jerks. People who don't get out to experience the unique sights and flavors of a vacation locale are morons wasting their money, if you ask me. Congratulations on being out of that mess.

Good riddance! He did you a favor. If you already paid fornte condo, dont pay more. I would however charge him for the number rides and meals you paid for. Since you had to pay 2 of 3 for a condo (which it should be 1 of 5) he needs to pay 4 of 5 for what you did... meaning he needs to pay fornhim, 2 Kodak and his mom. He sounds terrible. 

Did you sign an agreement to help pay for the vacation?

If so, you owe them nothing, and if they harass you, call the police.

What a horrible family, of truly disgusting people. They sound so vile, that they're almost like something from a Roald Dahl novel. Yuck!!! 

In a few months to come, you'll be wondering why you stayed as long as you did. 

You don't owe them a cent. Even if they took you on Judge Judy, she would rule in your favour, and tell them that they have no legal leg to stand on. 

Turn the situation around and tell your ex that HE owes YOU money, for all the treats and outings you shouted his kids over the years.