Want Your Views On Skids and the Internet....
Hello, I have just posted a reply on another thread concerning what skids get up to with the Internet, etc.
It is usually a disaster, especially with things like Fakebook, etc ( gee can you tell I speak from experience ??)
Well, I want to know....how do you control the Internet, P.C priviledges, etc, etc.
My own experience with SD21 a few years back was horrific, she is a pathological liar and her weapon of choice was the Internet, etc, etc.
We became desperate, upset, mad, and worried we were about to be in real trouble with her, would you ever do what we did..... And that is put a tracker on her laptop.....
In our defence, we had tried A LOT of things before we got to this stage, we owned the laptop she was using, we TOLD and EXPLAINED to her what we would be doing.....and she was living fulltime with us and was only 16 and therefore underage......
Using this monitoring, we found out our worries were the tip of the Iceberg, it was much,much worse, I have posted on here a bit about our situation and past with her.
Would you do this, or are you doing this??? It probably SAVED us about 2 years of more heartache as it fastforwarded us to getting it sorted, or so we thought..... Ours is not a sucess story, she still does it, but I have disengaged and we live in a different country to her now. She is also now 21 and therefore an Adult.
Have you thought about doing this ??? We were pushed into using it, but it was the best thing EVER.....
We have SS and BS passwords
We have SS and BS passwords and the computers are in the public space in our house. We no longer have SD and she has free range at her moms with her blessing. She will be pregnant and a drop out, I guarantee it.
I do check my son's history every once in awhile.
we do checks but have no
we do checks but have no blocks; I would love to get a block for SD14! But I don't think it will help, she's already had "it" several times. The internet is a powerful thing!
We have parental controls on
We have parental controls on and they have no real 'alone' time to do anything too bad on the internet... at least not in our house... I think... I also think it's just a matter of time before they start exploring more OR, by mistake, happen across some really bad stuff. I'd like to head it off at the pass... any recommendations for key logging software?
ooh thanks! I downloaded on
ooh thanks! I downloaded on my computer whic hubby and kids use sometimes. I'm going to download on the kids pc too now... is there any benefit in paying for the extra service and getting the screen shot functionality? Or do you think the free one is sufficient?
I don't monitor my step kids.
I don't monitor my step kids. Their mom does a wonderful job on that as much as I hate her I can honestly say she is a wonderful mom when it comes to stuff like that. But at the same time none of our kids were or are bad kids when it comes to that stuff.
We had 2 incidents with my dd and the internet the first time she was 12 and she got the spanking of her life. That was a mistake as she did it again when she was 15 so I took the internet for a year away from her. That seemed to have worked. Mainly it was her giving info to people she didn't know.
I think girls are worse at it then boys. Sorry you are going through that it is very scary.
I even got my dd a phone that
I even got my dd a phone that i could link with mine and know where she was at all times. SHHH don't tell her! }:)
SD15 has a netbook, but BM
SD15 has a netbook, but BM uses it as a punishment tool, so she's had it MAYBE 3 months out of the last year and a half.
If/when SD15 lives with us, there will be a keylogger on that netbook. We paid for it, we pay for the internet. Same goes for a cell phone if we choose to give her one. Once she's an actual functional adult who's paying for her own toys, she will be entitled to her privacy. Until then, her behavior on the internet reflects on us - handing out/posting information online is the same as renting out a billboard in Times Square.
And yes, if/when she lives with us, *I* will be the one doing the monitoring, with DH's knowledge and consent. He's too lackadaisical to stay on top of it.
Glad to hear a lot of us are
Glad to hear a lot of us are being super vigilant about the Internet, it also led to us using a tracker on the younger skid when in our house, using our laptop, it just sits on it..... But younger skid is NO WAY as scary as SD21 was five years ago......
DH thought it was like spying at first, but it really helped us understand how f** ked up SD21 was, like an early warning system......
I used EBlaster, it was quite well known at the time, plus you can sort of customise it to suit your needs, it can catch EVERYTHING on their p.c..... You have to buy it but then that's it and it was very easy to use, even if you are not p.c savvy....
I jsut have kids passwords
I jsut have kids passwords and I get on their accounts daily and check. Honestly I dont check my ds12's laptop as I just have not seen a need to yet. He plays WOW on it and does homework. My dds share a netbook-I am very diligent about checking my 13 olds facebook-and she has had trouble with boys saying inappropriate things to her and her allowing it. Which resulted in a 6 month or so lockdown on not just facebook but also her phone-all of her numbers were blocked with the exception of family and such. I do like the idea of some sort of monitoring so I will check into that tonight when I get home.
Oh, as far as ss13 I would not allow him on My laptop. The netbook that the girls use is also mine and I just allow them to use it. My ds has his own computer that he bought with his own money. My dh also has a computer and I figure if he wants to let ss on his he can (he never has as he is very protective of his laptop). I would not trust ss as far as I can throw him-well actually Icould probably throw him pretty far but you know what I mean. That's what makes it hard sometimes-is that my kids have earned my trust-or in dd's case earned it back-but ss has not. However, he still expects the same privileges and my dh even forgets at times that ss needs to earn things.
Hi - I was concerned about my
Hi - I was concerned about my SDs internet use, and installed a free net nanny program called K9, making it possible to chose various different levels to exclude, from the downright porno, to even mild violence, sexual content etc. I have it set about mid range. If you set it really low, it bans FB and other social networking sites.
If the SKIDS try and get on an excluded site, the K9 dog barks at them, and also leaves a record, so if they try to get on too many banned sites, they are then prevented from further internet access till I reset it with my password. Also I have K9 set to turn off internet access between 11pm and 7am.