I have a love/hate relationship with my fiancé's family. Love it because a lot of the times they want to see SD so it gives me a break from her but hate when they're around because they're ruining her. She completely changes from a capable human being to acting like she can't do anything when they're around. She whines for things instead of asking, she demands them to get things for her and they do it ! She doesn't have to say please or thank you to them, if she wants ice cream and candy for breakfast they give it to her, they play and give her attention the whole time they are with her, she turns into a whiney baby and wants to be held by them. Whatever she wants they do. They take her to the store and or have a small gift for her every time they see her. She's just a spoiled brat and I'm the bad guy because I tell her no to candy and she has to eat real food and she literally throws a fit and cries I just can't stand it. Me and fiancé get into arguments because I can't stand how his daughter acts and when she goes to her moms it's a free for all over there too so every week it's like starting over. She even throws a fit to sit at the table. It also gets under my skin when I tell her she needs to clean up her toys or if she throws something on the ground and she needs to pick it up she straight up tells me no. Anyone else notice a significant change in behavior when grandparents come around. Everyone just baby's her and I can't stand it. I understand she's a kid but she also is going to grow up and need to learn how to do things for herself like eat without a grandparent telling her "take a bite of this now take a bite of that" they're literally insane to the point where grandma came over and BROUGHT FOOD FROM HER OWN HOUSE TO OUR HOUSE !!! Because "this is what she likes" it's crazy.