Step Families & Christmas Presents
This isn’t step parent related, but I have a dilemma with my step- sister and her daughter (age 13) and Christmas presents.
Every year, I send a gift for my step-niece. I have never once gotten any acknowledgment from my step-sister or step-niece of the gifts I’ve send. Nothing. Only when I’ve been home for Christmas and actually spoken to them have I gotten any sort of thank you.
I have very little to do with either of them (my dad remarried when I was 29. My step-sister was about 20 at the time and already had a 2 year old daughter). My step-sister and her daughter have lived with my dad and step-mom off and on and I’ve mostly seen them them.
Instead of getting a Christmas present for my step-sister, I’ve always gotten something for her daughter. For the past few years, I’ve gotten her gift cards for Borders, but now they’re out of business. I don’t have kids of my own (only my boyfriend's 22 and 26 year old sons), so I don’t know what’s “cool” for kids now.
I’ve thought of it as a donation to the needy since my step-sister is chronically unemployed and her daughter struggles in school (why I’ve sent the Borders gift cards).
A few weeks ago when I talked to my dad and I asked if there was anything step-niece needed for Christmas, he said he’d get back to me. A few days later, I get an email from my step-mom suggesting I get a gift card to Hollister. I had no idea what this was, looked at their site and my blood was boiling. I never get any sort of thank you’s and yet I’m suppose to get her clothes to some trendy clothing place???
I don’t want to make waves. I’m pissed off about being taken for granted. I’d love to not send anything, but if I do, then I’m sure that will lead to more whining and complaining from my step-mom about how downtrodden they are and how fortunate I am to have a career and be childless and how it makes it seem like I want them to grovel in gratitude for spending money on them.