Step children to go to private school?
Hey guys, I know I am being reasonable here, but has anyone faced this issue and how did you manage to get your partner to see the point? It seems however I try to get the point across he just can’t grasp it!
I’m pregnant with our first and he recently made a comment that his first children will go to a private high school whilst ours will go public because we’re not as fussy, but that’s what BM wants because she wants to be a private school mum. I laughed and said “okay well if she is paying....” he interrupted and sarcastically said “no, I’ll be the one paying for it” (as if he has no choice!)
I said that what we do for his first, we have to do for ours. So if we are in a financial position at the time to pay for his first, we will need to be in a position to do for our. And vice versa. He thinks I’ve now made it a competition about her vs me. Which is not true or fair. I said he cannot continue to put her wants first just to please her and that I will not be financially contributing (while she sits at home everyday as a stay at home mum) as I have done equally in this household that currently includes his “first kids” for him to then go and give to his kids what we may not be able to ours. Why do these guilty men turn it into something rediculous and yet not see their own actions and words as unfair? He is now accusing me of wanting to send MY kids to private later...I was clear - we make a decision on what we are prepared to do for ALL kids when the time comes and if we can’t afford it for ALL kids the. It’s up to her to pay for private if that’s what she wants for her kids. FML.