So apparently I am an "Orange County bitch" LOL!!
I grew up in Orange County, CA (yes, near the OC Housewives on that awful TV show), but we didn't have money after I turned 10 and my parents got divorced. I went to school with all those kids from Coto De Caza where the OC Housewives are based, but I was dirt poor and lived in a ramshackle two bedroom house (with dad and three siblings) in a rural area near that community. I have worked since I was 14, put myself through college and grad school, did whatever I had to (lots and lots of late or all nighters) so that I could move up the career ladder, used birth control (gasp!) so that I didn't have my DD until I was 34 and financially ready, kept perfect credit, and bought my own big house in my name in 2010. I lived in a one or two bedroom rented place until 2010 and just tried to be smart about spending.
Apparently BM has decided that I am an "Orange County bitch" and is dismissing me as such - her inference is that I am spoiled or grew up rich so I just don't understand what its like to be a stay at home mom who is flat broke. Wow - me, and most of my friends would love to be stay at home moms, its not easy to get up early, get kids ready, drop them off at daycare, commute, etc, but we are also responsible and like to live a nice life (not a "rich" life, just a decent house, a family vacation once a year, and retirement savings) so we work because we need to. I have told BM that all of my friends have 1 to 4 kids, plus managed to get themselves an education and keep themselves in the workforce full or part time. I am by no means spoiled or from a rich family, but I do have 4 cute sisters who are educated and sane and a close family who really loves me. No one in the family is rich, but we do maintain certain standards, like a clean house. BM on the other hand came from a total trailer park town inland from us and her family is certifiably insane. Her house is FILTHY. DH still co-owns it with her and the last time he went there to pick up the last of his tools, he said it was so disgusting that it made him depressed. One of BM's sisters is a complete drug addict and had a baby on the floor of her apartment (DH now plays dad to that kid). Another sister is 400 pounds, has been in the mental ward more than once with INSANE Bipolar that goes out of control when she stops taking meds, and showed up at BMs house naked recently because she was driving 300 miles from her house and just peed into the car seat and her pants while she drove. That was fun for the skids to deal with. Yeah, I am really "high class" compared to these winners! Guess I'll take her insult as a compliment.
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When I was married to my exh,
When I was married to my exh, his exwife used to say I was the rich girl from Long Island. She just assumed everyone from Long Island was rich. I never knew people had this perception. I grew up in a nice neighborhood but definitely far from rich!! She tortured me about it for years.
Come to find out she is the true white trash!! I am divorced from him but she is still crazy. We actually get along now but still crazy!!
Wow Myflowers! I lived in
Wow Myflowers!
I lived in Newport Beach for a while too while married to DH#1 (who died of cancer right before DD3 was born) so I totally know the type of BM that you are dealing with. Yuck. Our BM grew up in Rialto - I know you'll know about that nasty town growing up in Socal. But apparently, she is more "real" then me because she is so trashy. Like to the point that she has a restraining order on her MOM and sister and won't let go of DH's family because she literaly has no one else.
Ugh, I have no words either,
Ugh, I have no words either, expect GET A LIFE LOSER! At this point, I think I'll copy and paste that to her, expect that she is so fond of restraining orders, sigh, maybe not.
Yep, I moved to the SB
Yep, I moved to the SB mountains (I love it here!), but I wouldn't have moved anywhere else in the IE. Just because I have functioning relatives who haven't bred together and don't come from a complete toilet of a town, you'd think I had a silver spoon in my mouth!
I'm apparently a rich C
I'm apparently a rich C simply because I own my house in a not too shabby middle of the road part of town(she lives with her parents in a rental because they lost their inheritance property) and don't work factory or how'd she put it.....oh yeah hard work. (she works in a factory boxing the same parts everyday or something. I work with adults with DD like taking care of 10 month olds- to 2 yr olds all day but no that's not hard,and because I'm going to college (paid for by my own hard work and government grants) she can't go because (exDH wouldn't let her study)
Somehow because I accomplish what I do I'm a rich bitch wish I had at least middle class income to go with my $ smarts and good luck.
I am from New Zealand and we
I am from New Zealand and we travel there every year or so to visit relatives etc. And people here think it is SO exotic. No dear, Hawaii or Vietnam is exotic... unless you live there I suppose then SoCal or the Caribbean is exotic.
We are not rich but we bought a house that is a LOT bigger and newer than DHs previous residence when he was married to his ex. She kept the house and wanted to be Ms Independent ... complete with doing pr paying up the kazoo for her own house repairs ... which I now get for free because DH keeps our house in excellent condition.
She did make a pissy remark about the palest yellow we painted our house which is 1000% better than the 'poo brown' it was before. "THAT is the most disgusting colour to EVER paint a house." she said when she dropped off YSS one evening. Of course Mr Blabbermouth repeated it. Yes, sigh! We chose a house colour you would HATE and dispise just to make you choke on your spit... NOT! The REAL reason is so it can be seen from space.(Not!)NBo, I liked the colour. It is so pale it is called Moonscape.
And apparently we now had 2 incomes so she hinted about taking 'us' back to court for more money. DH reminded her that in our state my income didn't matter one bit and if she tries that crap she will be bankrupted because it seems my MIL is loaded and would legally kick her arse just because she dispises the woman who almost emotionally destryed her son.
We are not 'rich' but comfortable. Retirement savings are building slowly, DH has a better job now and we are planning a NZ vacay at Christmas. And we may visit my son and DIL and 2 grandchildren in Australia as well if we have time.
Whereas my ex remarried a woman with a bad back but can ride horses (go figure) and made him sell up his big [property outside Sydney Australia and move to Podunkville, Tasmania (yep the island thingy off the bottom of Australia) Pop. 28 (and I am NOT kidding!) and then insisted he gets a job (where? They are in the middle of the freaking countryside!). So our life is much better than both our exes. Still, we aren't rich.
lol, geez, mostly I am just
lol, geez, mostly I am just amused because BM and I probably came from similar circumstances (although not similar family MENTAL circumstances) and I managed to really make something of myself. She, on the other hand, is still trolling the online dating websites and being pathetc. I love the extent that this woment will go to for a little self esteem.