Being that we've been having so many issues w/ FMIL lately I wanted opinons on something she recently told me before her cray cray was unleased on us a few weeks ago...
My FSIL is pregnant with her first child, this is FMIL 2nd grandchild. FSIL is BFFs with her DH's sister. When we found out FSIL was preg FMIl immediately asked me if I would help her with the babyshower, I agreed out of a feeling of obligation but thought it was strange that she would ask me and not FSIL husbands sister because I'm not close to FSIL, and that's her BFF. Anyway, last month FMIL came to a dinner we had for my bday. On that visit I advised FMIL that I hoped she didn't think she HAD to ask me to help her with the babyshower and that if any of FSIL friends (FBIL's sister mainly) wanted to help her that I would gladly stepback. She got irritated at this point and said that she was throwing the babyshower and if she'd have whoever she wanted to help her with it regardless of what FSIL thought. Note:FMIL is highly jealous of the relationship FSIL and her BFF have, in the past she's made FSIL choose between her mom and her BFF because she felt like FSIL was spending too much time with her BFF. Well during that convo she advised me that she was angry because FSIL told FMIL that her husbands mom and sister asked if they could attend all of her doctor appts w/ her and if they could be in the room while she gave birth as they are excited because this is the first baby to be born in their family. She was mainly angry because FSIL considered letting them attend MD visits and the birth. FMIL pretty much told me she told her daughter that she didn't think it was right to ler FSIL husband's mom and sister attend appts or the birth because FSIL is FMIL's only daughter and this is an experience between them as mother and daughter and that FSIL's DH's mom and sister would have that experience when FSIL's husbands sister had a baby, she went into detail to me about how she was a single mom and raised FDH, FSIL all on her own and she just wants that moment with her daughter blah blah blah... she actually felt like she was being victimized. From how FMIL explained it, she layed it on thick and SURPRISINGLY FSIL fed into it ALL and told her husband that his family could not be involved at all during the pregnancy or birth of the kid.
Now, don't get me wrong when I have a baby I dont think I'd want 20 people tagging along to every appt nor do I want an audience watch a human slide out of my hoo-ha what I DO find it strange though is that when FSS4 was born you bet your sweet ass FMIL was all up BM's business about that pregnancy and pretty much pressured everyone about being in the room while FSS was born and she got her way and was in the room when he was born. So what's different now? Why didn't she let BM have that "moment" with her mommy??
What do you guys think about this?