No Contact with HCBM
DH is preparing for mediation, so I was searching for a specific threatening email from BM and came across this blog post, which I sent to DH several years ago.
It talks about the trauma for the SM of dealing with a HCBM and the writer's regret that she didn't go no contact sooner.
I went no contact with the HCBM in my life pretty quickly. After meeting me once, she sent an email to her family and DH's family accusing me of wanting to move next to her (40 miles from my job), so that DH could stop paying child support. She also accused me of trying to take her children away from her on holidays. I don't even think DH and I were engaged at that point.
Additional threats followed and there has been repeated drama from her in the five years we've been together. Like the author of this post, I too have a visceral reaction when I hear the text tone (a T-Rex roar) that DH has assigned to BM.
Sharing, because I figure others could relate.