Tax season woes. Toxic Troll wants our refund.
Please steptalk some sense into me, or at least let me know if Im out of line.
I do our taxes every year as a couple and have done each of our taxes separately as well, in previous years.
THIS tax year 2019, Toxic Troll did not work. And we think collected disability. But its unconfirmed. She also does side gigs.
THIS tax year 2019, she "gave" Dh SD13 to claim on our taxes. She was "given" SD13 per family court, but is not filing taxes this year.
I filed and claimed SD13, happily. It lowered our tax bill such that we got 1,000 back. We would have owed, had we not had Munchkin to claim.
In MY mind I support SD13 on our 50%, and I also have done a lot of extra on top of support.
PLUS, DH pays monthly child support that goes to the"other side"
In MY mind, we owe Toxic Troll NOTHING. She asked "did we file taxes yet?" And now I heard Tuesday night that she wants her portion of child tax credit. dH explained it such that she knows aprox what we are getting back. And promised some work on her car instead of the cash, as an equivalent.
Thats my federal tax money she is reaching her greasy grubby t-rex fingers towards. This really triggered me - and its been ongoing, this absolute hatred tof Toxic Troll. This anger at her constantly crossing our personal boundaries, always wanting more and more. It might be that I am still emotional about all the stuff that happened last month. When MIL passed away, Toxic Troll sat herself down like she belonged and posted on social media about it "shes my mom!" And had to be asked by SIL to not attend the vigil anymore and please do not attend the personal private family events such as burial and memorial.
Just this whole 5 plus years I think is wearing on me.
So, for next year I am taking out enough from check so we do not owe. Next year I dont even want to claim kiddo, even if we get money back. Just because of HER. I dont want HER to benefit one iota.
I feel like Im cutting off my own nose here. Please talk some sense into me. Unfortunately DH feels the same. He wants nothing to do with claiming kiddo just so there is no connection to TT. I know. Makes no sense! Why not just be buddies, and all share in the benefits??? I cannot bring myself to do this.