DW does this all the time. Especially when it comes to comparing SS20 with SD17. SS20 has never held a job, doesn't go to college, doesn't have a drivers license, and is pushing 300 pounds. However, because he is "less" of a pain in the ass than SD17, DW kisses his butt. It's not like he is actually doing positive things, he is just less of a problem than SD17. And on top of that, he has the above issues, but those are ignored because he is "less" of a pain. What a joke.

Really??? I was getting myself up by the time I was around 12ish b/c My mom wanted us all to learn how to do things on our own. I LOVED it. I did the same with my kids, they have been getting themselves up from the time they were ready to. Sometimes it is different for each kid. But kids need to learn and at 14 she should be doing it for herself as part of her every day routine. For your dh to be that excited makes me want to barf! :sick:

Don't you just love when they declare how proud they are over something stupid and let the bad things they are doing slide. My SS10 has managed to make nothing but D's and F's for the past three years, but I am supposed to be excited when he manages to make an A in P.E.???? GIVE ME A BREAK - my BS6 is skipping a grade, take that dh! :jawdrop:

I'm convinced that "some" parents think their kids are perfect because admitting to themselves that their kids flaws will be evidence in their own ability to parent effectively. Hence, parents who think their kids can do no wrong have low self esteem themselves.