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O/T Damn if you, Damn if you don't

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Submitted by SMto5 on Tue, 12/24/2013 - 8:43pm

How do any of you feel about this situation. My husband will be going to MIL's by himself this Christmas, cause I am done being treated like trash. All my SIL's treat me like crap. ALL 7 of them! Oh I am invited but I will get some phony hugs and smiles from some. But the others will roll their eyes and walk pass me like I am invisible. And if DH doesn't go, then I become the bad guy and they will say "he doesn't come to gatherings because of her!"

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cant win for losin's picture

Submitted by cant win for losin on Tue, 12/24/2013 - 8:53pm

I have the same exact situation.
How do i feel? Nothin! If he wants to be with his fam for a while on the holiday, i dont care. I dont care what they think about me not being there. Ive started my own traditions since it will be like this for many years. I see a movie, drink some wine, etc...
I pretty much sit and enjoy the peace.

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Submitted by SMto5 on Tue, 12/24/2013 - 9:04pm

It doesn't make sense. When I do go, I am sure to be made felt unwelcome. And when I don't go they ask where I am. DH usually makes excuses for me. But they know what they do, they just want it to be on me in front of MIL.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Tue, 12/24/2013 - 10:03pm

See I feel differently about this. I feel if my dh loves he will stand up for ne or he shouldn't go and tell them why. I find it very sdisrespectful and that my dh doesn't love me enough to do what he should by me. I'd leave and be done. I refuse to be with someone that does that to me. supporting each other and making sure your partner for life us well taken care of and treated with the upmost respect even if that is your family you have to stand up to or not see them anymore til
they get it.

Edit to add: I also del that no spouse should leave their partner alone to go to someone else's home just b/c they won't stand up for their spouse. Even if it us their parents. It is wrong wrong wrong. I couldn't be with someone that did that to me.