I just emailed BM's boyfriend!
It might be petty but I agree with you guys who've asked how BM's boyfriend must feel about her relationship with her ex, my husband. I found BM's boyfriend's email address by looking for him on BM's facebook and then finding it on his work website. I sent him a quick note saying that I'm separated from my husband and was he aware that my husband is his ex's primary support, did he know that they talk and email and text all day long? I said that I wasn't comfortable with it and think it's inappropriate but i wasn't aware of their relationship for over a year and maybe he's not aware either and i wish someone who knew had told me what's going on between my husband and BM and so I'm telling him now. I said that she should be leaning on her friends and family and her boyfriend not her ex husband.