Hello everyone! This is my first time to actually post anything here but it's definitely not my first time to visit the site, so let me just start off by saying thank you to the creator of this website, everyone who has posted here, and to all who are taking the time to read this post. It’s taken me such a long time to actually post something because, quite frankly, I had no idea where to even begin....

There are no words to describe the beast of a woman my husband and I deal with on constant basis. The number of times she has filed frivolous motions and dragged my husband into court is too many to even count. I’m sure that many of you will be able to relate when I say that my husband’s ex-wife/SS’s BM is truly one of the most vile human beings I have ever dealt with, in fact, the only person nastier than she is her mother. Together these two trolls have wreaked havoc and destroyed (currently, at least) my husband’s relationship with SS by filling his head with truly horrible lies and refusing to let him come for his visits. She even has SS call her boyfriend “Dad” and call my husband by his first name instead of Dad. She has been a holy terror and the worst thing about it is that she has unlimited funding from her mother so she uses it to drag us to court for everything and anything just to cause stress. It would take a novel to start from the beginning, so I will just provide a few examples from the latest complaint she filed with the court:

1. We got the wrong lunch meat for SS and it gave him a headache so she filed a motion to try to make us keep some ridiculous event log of everything SS eats and does when he is visiting. There is no medical reason, she just wants the control.

2. He fell off his bike and skinned his knee while in our possession. This somehow equated to the fact that we were not properly supervising his play activities. (Incidentally, earlier this summer, while he was at home with BM, he somehow managed to step on a large carving knife that he had taken out and was playing with! Of course, when this happened it was simply an accident and in no way, shape, or form was a reflection of HER parenting.)

3. Apparently, we are damaging his individuality when we “tell him” to do something (i.e. clean up a mess he made, put his dishes in the dishwasher, etc…) instead of consulting with him about what he wants. She wants the court to order that we “ask him” what he wants and consider HIS opinion and feelings instead of telling him what to do.

3. His cell phone (which, btw, is one of the most expensive phones out there I might add!) was taken away from him because he would not stop texting and talking on the phone at all hours of the night with her and her boyfriend. When I say all hours, I mean Midnight, 1am, 2am, etc... She was demanding that he be given back the phone asap due to the fact that it was "damaging his fragile emotional state" which was our fault as well.

4. Spring Break: She wants the court to order us to take him on a vacation every Spring Break in order for us to have our scheduled visitation. If we do not plan a vacation for him, she wants us to have to forfeit our Spring Break possession.

In the last 8 months, BM has refused to send him for his scheduled visits with us 5 times! We are supposed to have him one weekend a month and 4 weeks of summer (2 weeks in June and 2 weeks in July). Apparently, she feels that her decisions outweigh the judge’s orders because, as she put it, she is his mother and she has final say over him! What she will do is refuse to tell us whether she has “decided to allow” us visitation. We won’t know whether he is on the plane or not ever. In fact, we end up having to go to the airport every time even if she says he is not coming because we are worried that she will say that he is not coming, but then put him on the plane anyway so that it would look like we just neglected to pick him up and they would send him back to her.

The latest incident was when SS was supposed to come for his second 2 week summer visit but when we got to the airport, we found out that she had refused to send him yet again! She would not answer any of my husband’s calls, so he left a message telling her that he was going to be forced to call the authorities if she didn't at least return his call or pick up the phone. She called back 5 minutes later and told my husband that she wasn't going to send him for his visits anymore, even though the court ordered that she start sending him. She stated that she didn't care about what the judge’s orders were because she was the one who should really get to make the decisions and she had decided that SS no longer wanted to come. She told my husband that he was bored at our house and wanted to stay home with his "real family". She put SS on the phone and had him say: "I don't want to come visit you guys anymore because I don't like it, and that is all I have to say about that." My husband was so upset by it but only said to him “I love you and just want you to be happy. (Silence for a few moments) Do you love me?" SS said nothing and then BM took the phone and hung up. It was one of the most heart-breaking moments I have ever witnessed, ever.

We have to take her to court AGAIN and it is going to be a very expensive and draining experience for us. That, however, is not the worst part of this whole situation. The worst part is that BM’s bitterness and spitefulness has kept SS away from his 2 half sisters (ages 16 and 12) from my husband’s 1st wife, who died years after they were divorced. I am in the process of adopting them too. As if these girls haven’t lost enough in their little lives, now their brother has been taken away from them!

Well, that’s the “Reader’s Digest” version of my situation. It sounds silly, but I am SO excited that I finally decided to begin posting here! Thanks for reading and I look forward to “meeting” you all!