finace too involved with ex wife
New to this site, engaged to a man with a crazy ex wife. She is remarried but still manipulates him. He gives in to a lot to avoid problems he could encounter with her concerning their 8yr son. ( During the divorce she accused him of sexual abuse to try and get full custody, put the boy who was 6 at the time through forensic exam all unfounded, just an example of her craziness.) She still calls him frequently even though remarried. He has given her advise on her new marriage, health issues ( she has history of drug and alcohol abuse and eatting disorders and comes up with some new illness regularly for attention.), finacial issues, how to's with commuter problems, has gone to their home to repair hole in ceiling, hang up big screen TV, put together new bed for the son, went to ball game with her new husband and their 8yr old even though the new husband cheated with the ex which ended the marriage. He has gone over there to give the new husband advise about his job, made him a new resume. He says he is a forgiving person and holds no grudges. I have voiced my concerns about his involvement with the ex wife as well as the new husband, I feel it is not mentally healthy. I voiced my concerns at the beginning of our relationship ( almost one yr ago). I got out of the relationship 4 months ago due to this concern, but after being assured that he would change I returned. There was improvement but gradually things have gone back to the way they were.
I love this man, but I don't think I can handle this dysfunctional relationship he has with the ex and new husband.
I am a widow of 4yrs. I have 2 teenage children, 16yr old son, 18yr old daughter from my first marriage, divorced 14yrs. My relationship with my ex consist of what is going on with the kids and when visitation will take place, very peaceful.
I don't like drama and that is all I foresee in this relationship. Someone please give me some advise, push me off the rail, knock some sense into me or tell me if I am wrong.
Thanks for your time