Has she changed?
When I met my husband one year after his divorce was final, he had a four year old son, and his ex had already remarried. Our relationship with her was not very friendly, to say the least. She has since divorced again and is planning on remarrying. We have been married for five and a half years, longer than the time from when they first met to when they divorced. Things have cooled off considerably to the point where we talk civilly at baseball games and exchanges, etc., and she has even joined a church with this guy. This will be his first marriage, just like it was her first two husbands' first marriage. I am wondering if this new niceness is indication that she has matured and changed for the better or just part of her manipulation of the new victim, I mean, husband. I can't do fake nice, so should I just keep treating her with apathy as I have been doing, or try to warm up to her and be friendly? I don't trust her, but wouldn't I be teaching my children (my four-year-old daughter and eleven-year-old stepson) a valuable lesson about turning the other cheek and all that? Or just opening myself up to more misery?