DW starting to back down
Well, it's been an interesting week in StepHell....
Quick recap for those who might have missed the prior installments: SD20 was recently discharged from the Army for unspecified medical reasons. Apparently part of it was due to a heart condition, but part was also due to her being overweight and unable to hit the required weight target. DW agreed to let SD20 (aka "Porky") move into our house, along with her husband "Taco." I was not consulted, and I learned that DW and Porky had been planning this move for months, but DW only gave me a few days of notice before Porky and Taco arrived. I've had many fights with DW over this whole issue, and was getting very close to filing for divorce.
So this week, a situation came up that was related to Porky, but did not directly involve her. I don't want to reveal the exact details because it would make it too easy to identify me. There was some ugliness involved between this other individual and myself, and after that happened, Porky and Taco decided to move in with Porky's grandmother. Apparently, they didn't want to "stay where they weren't welcome." DUH!!! Of course they weren't welcome here! That should have been obvious from the get-go - I was only going along with it because of the strong-arm tactics employed by DW. Whatever.
DW had stated that if I did anything to make Porky and Taco move out, then she would move out too, and would file for divorce. I let DW know that something indeed had happened, and although it didn't involve me directly interacting with Porky, that Porky was moving out. I braced myself for the expected ass-reaming and "I'm filing for Divorce!" pronouncement, but......nothing happened. DW came home from work as normal, and we had a normal evening, sans Porky and Taco.
The next night, DW allowed me to go out by myself in the evening (which is a rarity), and she had Porky and Taco over for dinner. Last night, Porky, Taco, BitchMotherInLaw, and BitchMotherInLaw's lickspittle boyfriend came over for dinner. I hung out by myself in the mancave, and once everyone left, DW and I had a normal evening.
So....it appears that DW has resigned herself to Porky and Taco not living here. I really don't care if they end up settling in the area long-term, as long as they don't live under our roof. If DW wants to have dinners with them and spend time with them, that's fine with me, so long as it's not an every night thing. It's not like I don't want her to have a relationship with her daughter. I just don't want to be around when they are together.
Things aren't necessarily settled yet, but I feel a lot better. DW and I are going away for a romantic weekend (no Porky or Taco, thankfully), and we'll see how things go. Despite the problems, I do love DW, and enjoy a lot of the things that we get to do together. I just don't like the way she panders to and enables Porky, nor do I like meddling BitchMotherInLaw. If we can keep things separated, I'm ok with that. We'll just have to see how it goes.